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She says things like just friends and I told her I'm not going to make a trip to visit you if I'm going to be subjected to her floor every night alone. And she basically said thats what it would be if I came to visit her this fall before she comes back to and we can get to know each other better.
This was a major mistake. You kissed so you obviously had attraction, so why not accept the trip offer and let that be the end of it. You basically said "so if I come visit you'll fuck me right?" Well what is a girl with an ounce of self-respect gonna say to that? You activated the ASD bigtime and of course she said the couch. The fact is, if you just be cool, she'll probably make a couch for you to convince herself that nothing's gonna happen but would be totally willing to sleep with you if you bothered to use push-pull, kino escalation, and playfulness together with sexuality to move the interaction towards sex in a comfortable, non-threatening way.
Remember what Jack Nicholson says in "As Good as it Gets" when asked how he writes women so well? He says "I think of a man, then I take away reason, and accountability." That is absolutely spot on. Women to do not want to be accountable for their actions, especially when it comes to sex, and they do not respond to cold, hard logic. Take the responsibility for them, and flip their emotional switches, and suddenly "it just happened."