So I've been talking to this HB8 for a while, she lives in a different city now for school. But anytime she comes back in town, we try and hang out and things have started heating up. Just to be specific, I had my hands down her pants last time I saw her - we were dancing in the club. She was loving it and didn't want to make it obvious what we were doing because she had a friend with her who has always had a crush on me.

After that night, she went back to school and I haven't hung out with her since. We text back and forth and she always hints at wanting to fuck but I have played it cool, not seeming needy, etc.

So last night, she is back in town for the evening, and I was at a concert and planned to go out afterwards, time permitting. I leave the show, and get a call from my buddy who is out at the bar with her and her friends. He calls and says "dude, get up here, Stephanie has been asking about you all night."

So I get up there, I am definitely hammered, but not a problem cuz so is she. When I get there, I notice her dancing with this other dude and see them making out. Bar was closing in 20 mins so I ignored her and her new guy friend, and waited til we were outside to say what's up to her. I didn't mention it to her, nor did she acknowledge it, but she was happy to see me we made plans to hang out poolside today and get drinks.

Thing is, I just want to fuck this girl. Her making out with the other guy doesn't bother me in the least because the night was nearly over and I wasn't expecting to close her in such short notice being that it has been 5 wks. since i saw her last. I have no real feelings for her other than I want to fuck her. I know she wants me and it's just a matter of time.

So basically I need some advice on how to play this. When I see her today, do I acknowledge it and play it off as a non-factor (in my mind it is) or do I just ignore it. I'm not sure if she knows that I saw her making out with that guy though.

Your problem is that you try to not appear as you are needy. Instead, try to appear as both needy and not needy of her. Usually, if she hints at you two doing it, go with the flow. She's the one initiating it. What you're doing is rejecting, not pretending to act that you're not needy. If she herself hints at it, then what more do you want? Just go with the flow and neg her lightly by saying something like, "Yeah but I got sensitive ears" or "I don't think you can handle me."

All you need is to have a back-up plan. Even if she hints at it, you never know, she could be testing you in the end if her plan is to show you last minute resistance. Just go with her flow. If she plays games, do a freeze-out.

The thing is though, I never rejected her. I once told her I was gonna come out and visit her and she brings up "you know we're not for sure hooking up right?" Then I told her to take it easy and said "now i know where your mind is at"

She brought it up first meaning she was thinking about it. This is just one example of many that suggests she is thinking of sex.

My problem is not with how to treat her from here on out, it is whether i acknowledge to her that I saw her make out with someone else or if I just pretend I never saw it. Which way would be the most PUA fashion to handle this?