Hey forum, I've got a long story here. I'll try to keep it short and clear.

About 2 weeks ago, i've met this girl (Anna). I never really got to know her, but I always had a good flow with her. She understand my humor and likes me too.

I played some game on her, and I knew we were going to kiss someday.


Now 1 week later, in our town we had this festival for 1 week. It includes music & lots of alcohol. Here the trouble comes in.
She likes an other guy too, this guy is a good friend of mine. I know his game, I don't like his way of playing girls (claimy).
So as confident as I am, I try to let them flow, not wanting to throw in some jealous behavior. But it was fucking hard to do and I did talk/ dance/ flirt with her a bit.
This night she kissed him.

The other night she kissed me laying in the grass.

The other nights were weird, she couldn't really choose and sometimes apologized to me and said we were going to go hard on Lowlands (a music festival).
I saw this as a good thing, because she felt guilty for being such a slut.
So with this in my mind I could relax.

a few days before Lowlands, I asked her to come drink beer. In wich she responded; YEAH! I want some beer!.
Good we drank some beer, talked about the festival, of course had some kino.
Now some other shit thing happend.
We were drinking beer in a bar and above the bar, lives the guy who she also kissed (my friend). We ended up watching a movie with the 3 of us (GOD DAMNIT).
Didn't realize how wrong it was.

So when i brought her home, we wanted to kiss badly, the tension was there, but she told me that she felt guilty towards my friend, but that she really wanted it. So I didn't kiss her and said I would not make things more complicated (or something like that) leaving with a flirtuous smile.

The day after called her one more time to go to the bar, because i was there, but she couldn't, she was in Amsterdam.

Froze her until Lowlands to meet up, check where her tent is blah blah.

Friday, the first day of the festival, i was on XTC and it kicked in a minute before my friends & I bumped into her with her friends.
This drugs could be a bad thing, which i hate myself for, but lets assume not for now.
She was drunk and said, ZeeendelooooooO!!! and we kissed heavily, so in all the euphoria I already was, I was so happy, thinking this is it and we will flow all weekend long.
Later that night I lost her, and the telephone network was shit, so I couldnt call.
Met some of her friends, didnt know where she was too.
Turns out she went to her tent, with headache.

Saturday night we ment again, this time she didnt drink anything, because she felt shit.
I didnt drink much for the same reason. We partied together, I isolated her by getting drinks with her. Watched her in her eyes and asked if I could kiss her.

This time, same story comes up. (fuck sake) I accept it, not beeing douche, dance for a while drink my beer and left. She gave me a peck on the lips though.
But I should have refused that kiss, cause i dont want kisses, cause she is feeling sorry for me.

Anyway sunday evening I see her again, she was leaving at 22:00. I was leaving the day after. Our groups and I talked a bit, she went away.

Then monday I get this text;

Was it awesome tonight?
I've had some really good days =).
Sorry for the confusion.. But glad that you know how I feel about it.
But in any case I really found it nice. X!


Didn't respond, I was freezing her after saturday night actually. But I have so much urge to respond. Don't want this to die, I broke up with my other girl for this shit.

Hey fellow dutchie,

So, she can't make up her mind between the two of you it seems.
You can't force her into a decision, but here's what you could do:

Be more awesome than the other guy.

Simple as that. Hang out with her a more, but also keep your own life, be busy with other things/girls, but spend some time with her as well. Tell her about the awesome life you're living, make her want to be a part of it! You just have to show her (without trying too hard) that you're way better than your friend. Don't mention him, don't talk crap about him, just make her forget about him. If she's really attracted to you, you can go in for a kiss at the right moment and say something like "I wont have someone else ruin what could be between us" - I know it sounds cheesy as fuck, but I could really see a line like that work for you at that right moment.

Best of luck bro,

Chillburg

ps if you want to talk in private about this in dutch, pm me

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what the fuck is this shit?

you like this girl and call her a slut after perfectly normal and common behavior that doesn't imply slutiness in the least?

wtf is wrong with you?

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Don't get a sense of what her interest is with the other guy. If she's tighter with him and has already slept with him then refusing you so she doesn't seem like a slut is what she will probably do. I think playing it a bit cool like you are doing now is a good thing. Its hard but do non-neediness at all costs. What you want to do is sweep her off her feet like someone else suggested. If she doesn't bite cut her lose quickly and stop the pain.

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