| Glad if I can help. And you're absolutely right, most of the work has to be done with one self. What really got me started was not any routines that I learned from a book or a forum. They certainly do help as a starting point, which is why I recommend you read "The Game", but it all starts with you reallizing that you, yeah you, are an awesome guy.
You really are, man! Hey, you came all the way from the Phillipines with a culture and a way of life that's so different from what they've got there in Cali. You have so much to offer and so much to tell anyone who has the good taste to stop and have a conversation with you. You can tell people so much about how life is different in those two parts of the world, about what you've learnt from the experience of moving to Cali, how you experience the cultural shift from moving there.
And hey, those are just some of the things that I can come up with from the little things that I know about you. You can keep filling out that list for ages and ages, writing a whole book about what makes you interesting to other people. Do that. Maybe not a book, but start writing a list, fill in one more thing every day. As the list grows and you read through it at least once every week, you'll realize that you have so much going for you! It sounds like new age bull shit, but it actually works.
Don't do customized affirmations like "I can get any woman I like", "I'm a beautiful person" and other generic lines made up by someone else with anyone in mind. Think positive thoughts that you know are true, because you've written them in your list about yourself. You will remember them next time you're out.
Any time you're out meeting women (or anyone really), you will know what a wonderful person you are and that language is nothing but a slight detail which only makes you have to focus a little more in order to get your thoughts across. It has no bearing on who you are, and anyone who thinks differently, well they're not worth your consideration anyway.
Never make excuses. In doing so, you admit to both yourself and your conversation partner that there is something worth making excuses for, which there isn't. I learnt this idea from a friend in a context which had nothing to do directly with PU; my friend helped me prepare for a job interview. I was worried that I would get tough questions on why there was a blank spot in m resumé, as there was a period for 2 years where I had no activities (studies, work, anything). He said to not make any excuses about it, because that would make them think that I think of it as a problem. "Instead just tell them about all the awsome and interesting things that kept you busy, but didn't make the cut to your resumé", he said.
If you make no excuses for yourself, you're maintaining a strong frame and your conversation partner will buy into it. But in order to maintain that frame, you need to believe in it yourself, which is where inner game comes in. _________________ Mungo's presentation:
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