Ok so my day off work is tomorrow, i dont get a lot of chances to sarge during work cos im always on break with someone...

so i want to sarge on my day off in town but my mates are busy, i want to go alone but i dont think im too ready to go alone yet although i have a lot of confidence now from sarging and talking to some HB's at work and customers its just i dont want to have to deal with an obstacle on my own right now and freeze out

its frustrating because i do want to go out alone but i dont, im sure you all know the feeling!

Any ideas??

Also I am going to a house party that lasts like 3 days, and its only a small group of us so i might go sarging before that and ask like 2 girls to come for me and my mate?? what do you guys think??

The most efficient way of gaining confidence is this: Facing your fears.

This helped me a lot when I first started doing this. As a matter of fact, one of my first few times I ever went sarging ever, were SOLO. I was SHIT scared of going out alone - but I forced myself to.

And you know what? Until this day - I feel that it was the best decision I ever made. It provided me with sooo much additional confidence that when I went out with FRIENDS - things got even easier!
I'm going solo tomorrow as well. According to me, it's the best way of getting good at game and the most efficient way of sarging in general (unless you got a wingman/wingwoman that's BETTER than you).

So I strongly (!) encourage you to go out alone. Force yourself if you have to. No matter the outcome, it will be totally worth it.

Look at it this way...if you have a friend who's not to good with women...he won't scare them away:D And you can do it alone. I like to go sarge alone or it has to be a group of at least 3 friends. That way if I don't succeed I don't have to hoover I can just go back to friends (if I'm not in the sarging mode so much)

Its not that im scared of it, its just that i dont want to go alone.. its hard to explain

Because i do want to solo sarge but then i dont because i dont want to give off a loner impression or if someone see's me that i know they may think that, even though it doesnt make you a loner to go out alone but here to most people i know it does make you a loner because everyones so very immature

You're right, it can easily look like you're a loner, or make the girl wonder why you are by yourself (and she might assume a negative reason). But if you're confident and comfortable in your opener then they won't even ask. Of course, this is why, in my opinion, solo sarging is a lot easier to do in places that are not bars and clubs. You can be alone in a library, in a starbucks, and on the street for a dozen reasons. Alone in a bar screams "alcoholic" unless you are very good at pickup.

The thing with just starting out is that you can't have super high expectations. You want some confidence, but that confidence improves once you just get the first few sets over with. You'll be fine, dude, good luck.

Imagine you had to go to a grocery to pick up something. Go out with the intention of getting that and on the way if you see any beautiful women, approach them and ask them where's the closest store.

Or you can change it to a clothes store, maybe you're looking for somewhere good to eat, whatever you want. Go out alone. It's the only way to adapt to what you're going to face when you actually have to.

And yeah the house party is a good idea. Better to get club girls because they're more likely to go with you all. That's my opinion. Unless you find a wild, fun HB walking down the street

Have fun man.

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... Ok, I should've explained this earlier I guess:

Key to solo sarging is to talk to everyone and be extremely social. This is the frame you will receive:

You: I just went out solo sarging and I'm opening almost every set.

Them (all the people in the club): Wow, that dude must be somebody important! He knows everybody!

Not only is your value at the TOP (best in the venue), but also: All the girls will be instantly attracted to you and when you open them properly this time, they will respond extremely positively.

You are now looking like THE MAN and women are swarming around you. If you tell anyone you came ALONE, they won't even believe you and think you're joking.

hmm ok, great replies ! ill take them all into consideration and thanks again panda

100% true panda.

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