Hi Guys,

We're having a party this week and i'd like to take the opportunity to make it my girlfriends first threesome. She knows its something i would like her to do and has expressed that she'd like to try it one day but i think her major sticking point is that shes worried about me wanting to fuck the other girl or being too interested in the other girl, which ive reassured her, i will not even touch the other girl if she doesnt want me to.

The other girl is a long time friend of mine who can be very much into girls and has expressed that she'd be 100% up for the idea.

So how can I engineer the situation? A load of wine? What are the best ways to start the situation off whilst all the time checking that the girlfriend is comfortable and not worried about me being to interested in the other girl?

First let me say this....lucky bastard

Now thats out of the way, I dont think any amount of reassuring will convince her otherwise, it's probably her own insecurity stopping this whole thing so this situation has to be eased into slowly. How well acquainted is your gf and this other girl? If there isnt any kind of rapport between them I can see why she'd get jealous and treat her as the "other" girl.

I cant think of a quick fix that'd be...ethical....alcohol does crazy things if you wanted to try and go that route but she could end up feeling guilty for doing something she didnt want to do yet and that could keep it from being a reoccuring thing.

I think this is just gonna take time man, let her know you still love her and that your relationship with this girl is only what it is right now. If your patient and guide her into this slowly, you can have a hell of a situation for yourself

Have these two hang out at the party and let them get to know each other well, since it's her decision she's going to need that reassurance from the other woman that it's only a sexual thing and that she only wants to be friends.

Once your girl comes to terms with that and you have your first threesome, she'll realize how small of a deal it is and it's game on then. But I wouldnt put a timeline with this, I can understand this is a weird new experience for her and trying to rush it in any way could hurt your chances.

First Rule of threesomes:

THE OTHER GIRL HAS TO BE A STRANGER!!!!!!

Otherwise you're taking a huge risk.

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I think a stranger would trigger the thought of 'what is expected of me, i must impress, is he looking at her?' too much, as far as one night stand threesomes go, strangers are the best way because judgement is the biggest factor youve got to overcome. The social creatures girls are, they dont even want their exploits to touch their social circle.

Threesomes aren't an issue for me, when single i used to pull this sort of shit all the time. But threesomes in a relationship, trust is your biggest hurdle, especially when you're already 2 years in and you're trying to bring in a new frame. Shes a sexual girl, i've taken her to torture garden and other fetish events before.

The other girl is a friend, but not such a close one that it would be awkward.

I wish i'd taken the time to properly install these frames at the beginning of my relationship. Nearly two years down the line its hard to adjust things.

Anyway this is what im thinking;

- Wine (If shes drunk the camera tends to come out too)
- Pump the girlfriends sexual state throughout the party (blowjobs in the bathroom etc)
- Pump the other girl with the classic intellectual discussions on blowjob technique and tales of fetish parties
- When the party dies down; photos of fetish party comes out
- Get them to make out
- Assess if its on, if it is, get everyone to leave, if not, cry in the foetal position.
- Get girlfriend to give blowjob in front of other girl/Get make out and groping/Get other girl to invite girlfriend to eat her out/etc.

Either way the last move is going to be the one that seals the deal and is crucial. She has to feel shes taking a daring risk that she enjoys and that she doesnt give a fuck if the other girl is there or not.