I had been gaming this girl for a few weeks or so. She had came over once but I totally fucked up and didn't make a move (I was really in my head about her body language and the way she was acting and shit when I clearly should have went for it). So I made like nothing had happened, she hit me up a few times, we kept talking a little. Last night was the last saturday night of summer for me so I decided I'd try to chill with her one more time.

HB: What are you up to
Me: With some people at erics, hows stroms?(a friend)
HB:We're at jon's at now
Me: truuu. hows that blackout comin?(joke with us)
HB:hahaha noo!! hows yours?
Me: Workin on it right now- get on my level girl
HB: Hmm I shall try. You guys still at erics?
Me: Yea- hows jons?
HB: I am bored
Me: I told jessica you guys can come through but its just a few of us drinkin and smokin hookah
(few minutes later)
Hb: K we're coming
Me:Naa don't it's dwindling down- who you with? (it was just 6-8 of us at that point nothin doin)
HB: Jessica and Amanda
Me: Hmm so what are you guys gonna do?
HB:DK
Me: I got something we could do
HB: What??
Me: Lets get some tbell or mcdonalds somethin real nice then we can sip on some win in the den (I call my room the den) (I suggested food like that b/c its a "thing" with us)
Me: Keep it real classy ya know
HB: Tbell + wine. TRUE hahahahahaha
Me: Yeaa- maybe we'll do some swimmin
Me: Idk
HB: hahahah swim!?
Me: Maybe- we'll just see what happens
Me: We're leaving so I'll be home soon- come the den we'll sip some wine rip a bowl, I mite even let u throw on the notebook (a joke we have)
HB: HAHAHAH the notebook!!!
Me: I just picked up a dub and am gettin food I'll hit u up when I'm back
HB: I have some bud too
Me: ite cool- you got a ride?
HB: Perhaps
Me: ite good- I'll hit you up in a little
HB: OK
20 mins later
Me: Ite come through
HB: Still at Jons
Me: K- just let me know when you leave
This is where things go downhill
HB: But I'll be with jessica and amanda
Me: So get them to drop you off and I'll drive you home later
HB: Nooo I can't
Me: y?
HB: Bc I don't even know what I'm doing to get home
Me: I'll drive you home
Me: Come over- last weekend of summer and I kind of owe you
HB: I'm with jessica now- can we both come?
Me: As much as I like jessica I'm not trying to do that
Me: So either you're comin to blaze and chill mayb take a dip or ure not...
Hb: haha well I'm with alexa so I guess not
Me: K

I was under the impression she was down to come chill and then all of a sudden just pulled out she wanted to come with a friend

Whats your take on this? And how did I handle it?

so basically

your talking to girl
you want girl to come over
girl wants to bring girlfriend too
you say no

?


wtf is wrong with you?

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why didnt you want the friend to come??????? you could have been blessed with the joy of a 3some!!!!

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or hell, get the friends subconcious approval and isolate the one with the other girl watching tv and texting.

or just hang out and enjoy their company.

not like having her friend come automatically means no fun will be had

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yeah i agree and if the friend is hot you could use her if you were going out to bars or nightclubs several girls one guy CAN ANYONE HEAR THE WORD PRE-SELECTION

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I just had a situation kinda happen to me on the flip-side. A girl told me not to come down to her place BECAUSE she was with the friend and wanted us to be alone when we met. No idea why.

There's nothing wrong with hanging out with her friend too. Winning over her friend is a very quick shortcut into getting into her pants, by rejecting the friend it made you seem like you were trying to isolate her and have sex with her.

You should have included the friend. By making a big stink about her girlfriend you:

a) made your intentions for sex obvious
b) put her in an uncomfortable position with her friends
c) took away her ability to say "it just happened"
d) appeared persistent and demanding

Next time welcome the friend. If she's hot you can make your target jealous by flirting with both of them. If she's ugly you can confuse your target by paying attention to and engaging both of them.

Also - some of your texts are too long.
And never text twice in a row. Never ever ever.

I am friends with the girl she wanted to bring. She has a boyfriend (and doesn't cheat). I figured if she's trying to come over with a friend it's basically her way of saying yea I'll come chill but I'm not about to fuck you. So I thought well if I'm not getting my d wet, there's really no reason for this girl to come over.

I thought I was persistent in a good way, w/o showing neediness.

I'll probably again make it like nothing happened and continue gaming her the way I have.

Any tips on things I should do/say?

also all your texts are a lot longer than hers, try to keep it short and fun

This is where comfort comes in. The girl obviously isn't 100% comfortable yet with the idea of sex with you. Having a no-pressure hang out with her friend will help to build that comfort because it will signal to her that you don't just want her for sex. Whether you do or don't want something more with this girl, if she gets the vibe that you are only interested in hanging out alone, after dark - you probably won't get the goods. She may even say yes to coming over, but she'll probably throw up major LMR if she's not wasted.