Hey all. Last week, I broke up with my girlfriend of 15 months and its been tough. It didn't end poorly, but it just wasn't what it used to be. I don't harbor ill will against her, but the thought of her hooking up with someone else now makes me almost physically sick. I have considered hooking up with someone else, but I decided that it does not appeal to me yet. I beat around the bush about it with her and she seemed a little more willing to hook up with someone than I am and it kinda messed with my mind. We both go to the same college and I move in to my apartment a week before she moves in to hers, but she starts work at school before she moves in, so a long time ago I promised she could stay with me for 5 nights so she can go to work. I really, REALLY regret this now that we are broken up, but I am too nice to tell her she cannot stay with me. I just feel like it will be counter productive to me getting over her. I just want to reach a point where I don't care what she does anymore. Any advice on how to get over this? And any guidelines for her stay that you could recommend for me? I probably shouldn't sleep with her, but I may not be strong enough not to. Thanks in advance.

Grappler

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The best way to get over this is to go out there and meet new women, I no you said that doesn't appeal to you yet but it's the only way you'll truly get over her, find someone better. It's worked for me so that's the only solution I know.

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I know that I need to meet new women but until the 21st, I don't really have an opportunity to. So I have to suffer for another week

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I would tell her to find new fuckin plans for those 5 days because you're place is not available, but if you are set on lettin this go I would basically ignore her the whole time.

The best way to get over an ex is to have fun. Don't wallow in misery, because that accomplishes nothing. You gotta go out, enjoy life, and remind yourself that you are fully capable of havin a badass night without the gf. Call a couple buddies up, talk to girls, open sets. Just have some damn fun.

been in a similar situation mate - i didn't want to get with any other women yet but i knew she did. I would recommend just telling the friends that you are close to that you are having a rough time with it and they will support you - go to the pub with them, go to a footy game, hit the gym - anything but be alone.

I found when i was alone all i thought about was her - until i found the desire for other women. so basically just keep yourself busy!!
and as for the 5 day thing - just call her and say that its not a great idea and she will understand

You gave up what say-so you had about her sex life by breaking up with her. Get over it.

You need to end all contact with this girl, DO NOT let her stay with you for any length of time, delete her number and toss out everything you have that reminds you of your relationship together.

If you do allow her to stay over, it is almost guaranteed you will wind up sleeping together "one last time" and fall back down the rabbit hole. Resist temptation. You ended the relationship for a reason and it's time to start acting like you mean it.

Your boy,
870

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