What is the elusive spark?
I have no problems getting women into bed, this is not to boast just to say I have game and women seem to like having sex with me. Hell recently a good friend of mine suggested to her close girl friend who was just out of a relationship to 'give the pretty boy a whirl' as it would take her mind off of it and get her head back in the game.
But when I actually like a woman, I won't sleep with them on the first date, and I will actually have a date with them instead of meeting them in a bar. I can be old fashioned and full of manners as I want to make a good impression, but it seems to be ending recently with "you're gorgeous but I just don't feel the spark, you know what I mean?"
I don't, what the fuck is this spark? If I like someone I'm not hit by lightning or feel some sort of spark, I just enjoy their company and want to make them feel good about themselves. So my question is, what is this spark, does it exist or is it something women belive does because of romantic comedies?

If a woman tells you she just doesn't feel the spark, it's a way to let you down easily.

The "spark" translates to a physical and emotional connection and is kind of like lust but also a wanting to get to know you better.

I knew me and my boyfriend had the spark when we first started going out because I was always (and still am) so excited to see him and would get butterflies and nervous feelings. I would also feel very turned on just at the thought of him and I kept wanting to know more and more about him. I desperately wanted to make him happy and make him become a part of me. He now has become a part of me and that spark is still there but now I see that it's love.

Anyway this is just my opinion and I hope it helps a little...

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....Thought you might like a girl's opinion....

Oh I know it's to let me down gently, but I don't understand it at all. The relationships I've been in and when I have actually fallen in love with someone, didn't happen instantly, it was a journey from friendship to that point. To be honest I think I'm just getting feelings for friends and they just fancy a fuck, the last two times it's happened it's been with friends who have left a relationship with in 2 months.

u can try to get her to accept you or move on.

Dude,

this is simple. The 'spark' is simply wat we PUAs would call ''attraction''. You probably flip the switches nice and early, but then you prob become too needy and lose your edge. Remember, you can be nice and into a girl, but you have to be cool about it as well. If this is coming up regulary it means a girl is not getting those addictive ''emotional spikes'' that girls crave. The way to do this is to be edgy by being unpreductable and non-needy, thus creating and keeping the ''spark''.