There are many girls out there that avoid players...so how do I disguise myself from looking like one?

I can't go back to walking without standing straight, losing my muscle, losing my hair style, etc.

Any advice please?

How about you don't be a player and either date several girls at once without lying about it or dating one girl at a time.

Being a player implies that you lie to women and manipulate several at once all while you never speak of the others. All you have to do is be a man who has options, is dating those options and is upfront about it. Then I think the girls who don't date players won't think you are a "player" in the liar/untrustworthy sense of the word. Maybe not though, women are loopy.

Or you could do what my good friend used to, the girl would say "you are a player!" and he would say "so what, what does that change?" The girl died for that statement because it changed nothing. Even though they knew he was a player they couldn't help themselves.

I tend to date one girl at a time, or if I am dating around I am open about it. Then I don't have to worry about being a player because I'm not one, I'm just "not looking for a relationship right now." It makes me seem as if I am not playing girls and screwing them over but I just am having fun and don't want any comittments.

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The dating isn't the issue, it's the looks. Like for example, what you said about what that one guy said was a good thing.

I am pretty sincere, but because I act playful and different, they think I'm a player.

dude...i know what you mean and it sucks

To clarify.

How can a woman that is attracted to you all of sudden just logically think you are a player and then turn off her attraction?

I don't think it works that way.

But of course women will think you are full of shit and liar if you come of as a player so I don't think it is a good thing to be percieved as at all. I guess your problem is that you are good with women and have an attractive personality so that makes them think you are a player.

I don't know. I have slept with a lot of girls consistently because I was upfront about my intentions and they never see me as a player. I am just a genuine guy so maybe come off as more genuine or just next girls that think you are a player?

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how about stop caring if you're a 'player' or not? why would you want to hide a part of yourself?

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Every Saint has a Past, Every Sinner has a Future

Because players are something that girls avoid...

LOL . . . this is right up there with:

"Oh my God, I never do this sort of thing . . ." - as she's about to suck you off on the first date.

"Just to let you know . . . I don't want to take things too fast . . ."

Guys . . . the MORE a girl tells you that she's NOT into 'players', the more she's into them. She 'says' she's not into players because she's had PLENTY of them. Old habits are tough to break.

since when?

players become players because they get women, you think theres like a line that says "once you've had this many girls, you'll never get another one?"

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Hmm, you do have a point about the habits but then again...what about that whole thing about being different from everyone else? I mean...I can't be one of those many nice guys, and I can't be one of those many jerks, women do eventually start to look at the long term relationship

That "whole thing" is NOT YOUR issue. That's the point of view of a guy who wears Dr. Seuss hats and ski goggles to night clubs. Who you were yesterday is who you were. Who you are today is who you are. Why are you bending over backwards to become somebody FOR GIRLS you have yet to meet?

You want a long term relationship? Then why begin by trying to become somebody that YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW? It's hard enough to figure out the girl's identity.

You want to bang a ton of chicks? Then why begin by being somebody that . . . well, no scratch that . . actually, playing a 'role' at a club can be a ton of fun for everybody. This reminds me of several things I've heard the 'next morning'.

"So come on . . .you're not REALLY a taxi driver are you?"

"So is that your real voice? You really talk like that all the time?"

"OK . . . so what's it like being a magician in Laos?"

"Come on . . . you must have more than just one food cart in Cambodia . . ."