ok so BG info.. This girl went to HS w. me n was always saying hi n stuff though i didnt know her n she has a longterm bf but we connected on fb...

Heres the convo from yesterday I did my "find your stalker" app n she came up number 3

so

Me: Congratulations ur my number 3 stalker lol
Her: lmaooo. how am i ya numba 3 stalker !?!
Me: go on my page I did the "find your stalkers" thing.. Lol.. Gottt errrrrrrrrrrrr
Her: lmaooo . hahah (: well then im ya numba 3 stalker ! jajaj. how does that soundd ?!
Me: Lol good? unless u wanna be number 1? then I suggest Step your stalking game up lol...
Her: lmaoo. okayy. but that's only if ya want me to !! (:
Me: Lol DUHHH.. Your always welcome to stalk me...
Her: lmaoo . okay okayy . sounds good to mee

perfect right?

so I msg her later that night...

Me: Hey stalker!!! Lol What have u been up to?
Her: lmao nuffin tryin to do as much as i can since school boutta start in 2 weeks. youu?
Me: Lol ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh u still got school lol
Her: im excited to start , actually ! so hhaaa!!
Me: what r u gonna be? A senior?
Her: yahh lovee
Me: Ohhh I'm "love" now lol? Ok I can live w. That...
Her: lmaooo. yaaa. i call everyone different namess
Me: Trueeeeeeeee, I'm just sayin.. That's a good look for me lol
Her: lmaoo. howw?
Me: Lol nooooooo u just want me to be all sweet n nice.. Neevvveerrrrrrr
Her: Nahh, it was a simple question..
Me: eh.. ill keep it to myself lol
Her: Ok..
Me: Why so serious? lol
Her: mm dk
Me: uhmmmmm...? u good? lol?
Her: yah what u mean
Me: iono, you was kinda in the convo then u like.. Just started givin me these short serious answers lol, I feel like I did something wrong?
Her: Nah you didn't ! Forreal

WTFFF JUST HAPPENED? AHHHHHHHH!!!?!? lol

Bro, ...

You're way too reactive to what she says.

"omg you called me love! yay im special"


It's like, erm, the only way I can explain it, is that... you're getting wayyy too excited by her actions/words and reading wayyyyyy too far into them. And she will blatantly see this too.


There was this guy at a party the other week, he did this sort of shit. Girl said he was 'nice', he ended up thinking she was into him and basically thinking she would sleep with him, but in a very un beneficial way.

Now, whilst I can tell you're nowhere near as lame as this dude. It's still the same sort of pattern.


Even if you dont think she's into you, it don't work because in her mind it;s like 'shit, I only called you 'love', no need to be planning our wedding'



Hope you get ma drift.


Love

~Finesse

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Munroe: "I kinoed the hell out of that goat"
Jav: "bashing chodes 24/7 ftw"
Slywalker: "Neg the bagel"
Slywalker: "I had a 1yr old GF when I was 19"
SS_Trunks:I asked her for an extra pen, confidently....

Yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa I figured Lol..

I realized I do that shit lol.. It just seemed ok cuz I felt like I racked up so many points I could afford to react more.

"iono, you was kinda in the convo then u like.. Just started givin me these short serious answers lol, I feel like I did something wrong? "

this approval seeking. Don't do that man!

your right.. i notice when others do it, but not myself, thanks.

"Me: Lol DUHHH.. Your always welcome to stalk me... Smile "

A better response could have been "Hmm .. I dont know , i only like really good kissers stalking me".

Just act as if you have loads of girls talking to you, be cocky,funny and flirty without appearing to put too much effort into it all.

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I have taken more out of alcohol than alcohol has taken out of me. ~Winston Churchill

I REALLY wouldn't suggest our friend here to do this.



To do this effectively takes such subtlety that it's almost worth not doing.

I do it, because it's true. But even when it's true, you have to communicate this in the most subtle, unboastful of ways. Otherwise you look like a loser who is making shit up, or just trying to impress her.


Judging from his way of talking in his example dialogue, I don't reckon it's wise for him to try communicate this *yet*.

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Munroe: "I kinoed the hell out of that goat"
Jav: "bashing chodes 24/7 ftw"
Slywalker: "Neg the bagel"
Slywalker: "I had a 1yr old GF when I was 19"
SS_Trunks:I asked her for an extra pen, confidently....

Maybe yeh. You cant appear to be pushing it but I usually try it subtley like if she asks what i got up to "Oh just went to cinema with a friend".

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I have taken more out of alcohol than alcohol has taken out of me. ~Winston Churchill

Well I might have said something like that.

But she has a bf & this was on her wall for the world to see

which is y I tried to message her thinking I could get her to gimmie something more promiscuous or at least aproval seeking But I failed by bein a little thirsty for something to work w. N trying to get her to take the bait off the "love" thing.

I got this tho, I don't even seemed to have lost much rapport w. Her.. I'll just bow out gracefully n try again later.