I had been gaming this girl for a little. Kind of tried to get her over late night 1 or 2 times before but didn't work out, whatever no big deal. Continued gaming her really only when she would contact me first. Last night we're drinking at my friends, she's in a corner with a friend and 2 guys, I pay no attention really, I'm having a good time where I am. I bounce to another party, we're texting back and forth a bit. I tell her I have a few people over and she asks if she can come. I say that they left but if she wants to smoke she can come over. She says yea. So I figure arite it's on. She comes over, I roll a shitty J, we smoke it in my backyard. We're just talking or w/e, sitting in different chairs so kino is minimal(dumb,I know).

We finish up, go to my room. Sit on my couch, her BL is throwing me off. Her left arm which is closest to me is across her body holing her right arm. She seems to be trying to make her body as small as possible. I'm thinking wtf. We're talking, i'm teasing. I make fun of the bow in her hair and take it out and try to put it back in. Minimal kino, the body language» is throwing me off. She mentions its late, i ignore. She gives me her hand to look at a blister she got, I play w/ her bracelets. She says something where I give her a little tickle, she's ticklish but it unfortunately only goes so far, doesn't go where I though it would. We chill ssome more and she goes arite its late im gonna go. I say arite w/e and she leaves.

I go back to my room and feel very defeated and pathetic. I feel like saying, did u come to my house just to smoke my weed?

Should I? Where do I go from here?

no you shouldn't.


Erm, Perhaps you were a bit pussy with your escalation. You sound, although I'm impressed that you did decide to push on through the 'perceived' rejections/doubts, you sound like you may have been a bit nervous, or hesitant. I say this because of how you pointing out all the things that made you think it wernt on.


Perhaps, you needed to be a bit more bold and confident and more full on. Maybe not. But read that shit over, you're pissing about with her bracelets n looking at her hand n shit.

You probably should have made some really overt, but tongue in cheek sexual comments, then gaged her reaction/response. The more receptive she is, the more harder/bigger/bolder your physical/verbal escalation can be.

you sound like you held back, didn't express your desires enough, so even if she was down to fuck, you *may* have blown your chances. Just my view anyway.


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yea that's about right. Guess I was kind of hesitant which didn't allow me to escalate and be bold like I needed to be.

Where should I go from here with this girl? I feel like this may be tough to overcome...

Should I wait for her to hit me up or just hit her up like nothing happened? Should I open her back up with a little joke about the night or just make like it never happened?

Im going to share a similar situation ive been in but where i have suceeded

I have k-closed some girl 2 times in the past and we arranged for her to come to mine to watch a "movie".

I sit close to her practically leaning on her do all the right kino but our bodys are facing the T.V. which would make it awkward to k-close

I stand her up and make an excuse " you use to do dancing right ? show me ballay" her " no " me " get out my house then " ( jokingly ofc)

I then say all i can do is the waltz " grab her close to me and try and make the k-close happen naturally ( but this girl is extremely shy ,a strict devout christian basically the impossible) So she chickens out

I try a K-closing routine later on because i was that desperate to try anything ( but i obviously showed her i didnt give a fxck)

she declined me so i sat down to continue watching the film and gave her negative body language , she tried to rengage me .

Then i remeberd a routine i use to do as a kid before i knew about the P.U. community. The next time she touched me i stated that she gave me an electric shock and pinched her back because she caused me pain . She responded by pinching me . It went on for a while and i told her " listen the next time you pinch me im going to bite your neck" she pinched me " i bit her neck and held it for like 3 seconds i then moved my head away slowly and we k-closed

The point of that story is If you cant kino . Make a situation where you can . If she denies you keep plowing . Show that your not botherd if she stays or leaves life moves on .

Classic case of lack of sexual tension/escalation.

I agree with that also... I couldn't turn the situation sexual at all. Not sure why, just couldn't. Felt real shitty about it.

What should I do next with this girl?

What do you suggest I do though, if I am in the situation in which I feel the signals aren't good and things aren't going well. What do you guys like to do to snap out of that and get things going in the right direction?

Well you could have controlled the pacing of your voice and used innuendos. You should always think positively, if you feel that its not going well then she will sense it. Better to go the complete opposite and think to yourself, this girl can't wait to fuck my brains out. As for what to do next, personally I would just move on. You had a great chance and missed it, oh well who cares. Just remember to learn from this! Learning from mistakes will always help you improve faster, and this goes for more than just pickup (obviously).