Problem: I work at a hardware store. Theres a cute cashier, i'd like to take out. Shes east indian. And we're not talkin east indian four generations back, i mean born and raised "thank you come again" indian. Shes usually pretty friendly towards me but no indication of any real interest. The culture is defidently more conservative when it comes to women and dating. This is complicated further by the fact that shes a coworker and bringing matters like this into the workplace can be dangerous. My question is how would you handle this? Any expierience with east indian women? or chasing women in the work place? My plan of attack was going to be a very simple invite to a drink, but i'm concerned that rejection will lead to a very ackward daily life. what would you do?

Indian culture has arranged marriages she could be bethrothed since she was a child.
I have Indian friend who is getting married in August he has never met the girl only seen her photo and talked on the telephone. the couples parents arranged the match when they were about 5.

dont ask her out for a drink in a bar---she probably doesnt drink alcohol for religious reasons and has probably been warned about decadent western society and GUYS--and there is probably a lot of truth in what she was warned about

take her for coffee as '' '' Friends'' '' first to see what the story is

She puts up a very western front but i have a feeling that a front is all that is in order to seem just like everybody else. Shes the kind of girl who goes straight home after work every night. I've engaged her in conversation about men before and she seems interested and dating and not previously matched, but then again this could just be a cover. Thanks for your reply.

my bigger concern would be the co-worker thing.

don't shit where you sleep...

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we have zero mutual friends would it be creepy to facebook her?

if you work with her and talk to her there shouldnt be a proble of friend requesting her---however im not a fan of facebook and don't indulge in it,its just not my thing but thats just me

Honestly, you have no idea if there are going to be any problems asking her out or dating her. You are assuming all of this based on her cultural history. But she has not come out and told you any of this, its all assumptions. That being said, my advice is to approach this like you would approach any other pickup. If her culture is going to be an issue, deal with it when it happens, but it is pointless to worry about it in advance. For all you know, she might be westernized enough already so that dating is not an issue at all, and you may be worrying for nothing. And if it is an issue, I'm sure she'll let you know as it occurs. But seeing as you don't even know if she's interested yet, worrying about your cultural compatibility is a moot point. Just take it one step at a time.

P.S. Hilarious

+1.

Totally agree with that. I don't think you should pick-up co-workers. Because if things don't work out both of you are unconfortable with the situation. There are plenty of woman out there. Why that one? There is a reason why some companies don't allow the workers to have relationships...

In your case I would go out and meet other woman, if she does the I-Can't-Get-You-Out-Of-My-Head thing to you... think about it again.

(i have been in the situation of a break-up at my work and trust me it's big drama)

Riqueza.

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