What are some things you can do to show a girl that you need her?

Thanks in advance!

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This'll be a slippery slope with alot of people on this forum. The fact that you're trying to convey you "need" a girl is usually a counter-productive way of dealing with all women, and even women you're looking to get into a relationship with because it gives alot of power to that woman. Openly showing a girl that you need her wont give you the results you want. If you're looking to get into a relationship with this girl, start by just spending a bit more time her. Let her know that you appreciate her in your life and want her to be a part of it, invite her to venues you may go to, and have a great time. A gesture of a dozen roses and a moonlight serenade might seem romantic but...to be honest...a woman you're not already in a relationship with doesn't deserve that kind of attention or hasn't earned it.

Simply by inviting her to be around you more will show that. You dont need a grand gesture of love and affection, it's usually those little things that count the most to them.

So should I show her I need her if that is what she wants me to do as in she wants to know that she is needed?

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

By showing you are needing something you are showing you are dependent on it. It is loads better to want something instead. As this shows your not dependent on it.

Again, if she "wants" you to show her that you need her....cant you see where the balance of power in that relationship is already going? She's telling you to jump to prove your love, and asking her "how high?" is not sexy nor attractive.

When a girl asks like this, I want to say it's more or less of a shit test to determine how far you'll go. Women and children are the same in this aspect. They'll push the limits of someone as far as they can till it gives resistance. If there's no resistance, they'll continue to push. Dont be afraid to not give in to her requests like this. Say something like, "I want you around me, shouldnt that be enough?"

If that's NOT....you have your answer. She's playing a typical female role and testing you. You'll encounter this alot. Just recognize when this is happening and dont let her get her satisfaction of pushing you around.

But what if it is out of insecurity on the woman's part?

Should I approach this differently? and how should I do that?

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

Unless she's insecure to an extreme flaw, every woman wants to feel special in some way from the guy that they're interested in. If you want to make a gesture that shows your committed to going to the next level with her, there's nothing wrong with that at all. Let her feel special in your own way, pick a day out of the week and go have fun together. Grab a bite to eat, go to an amusement park, make her feel comfortable and great around you. That will go over much better since it's genuine and it's something YOU thought of. If you buy her something or do something for her because she told you to because it would make her feel special would'nt go over well because you know why? It'll never end with that. It never does. If she got away with that, imagine what else she could get away with?

Im not trying to be doom and gloom bud, im just trying to give you the insight that I've experienced with women pre-relationship. A planned heartfelt gesture of taking her out and having fun because you wanted to do that with her will have such an impact that she'll have such a level of comfort with you that her insecurities will lessen with time. Wish ya the best with this man

Hey man,

Thank you so much. You really deserve another thumps up from me

That's so true. Thank you !

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

Not gonna bother reading through all of the replies here, I imagine some good points have already be made, however, I'll put in some input of my own...




As I'm sure you've already been made aware... You don't want to need a girl. Secondly, you don't want to let her know you need her.

Now, by all means, I don't think there is nothing wrong with showing a girl how much you love her and how special she is. But you should limit how much you do so. Don't do it so frequently, but when you do decide to, do it in a big way. A very expressive way.

Girls want to feel special, they want to feel loved and adored for all their small points. They also want to feel that their love is appreciated. Now, there is realllyyy NO point in trying to manafacture this. If you're blind to the things that you should appreciate about her, then thats you.

I say sometimes, the most gayest, sweetest, romantic sounding crap to a girl. But I say it sincerely, and because I've noticed it, and it's just an expression of my thoughts and feelings for her. Again, I do this sparingly. Not as a technique, not as a pre-thought out thing, but because I feel to do so.

It is really powerful stuff if kept in moderation.

It's also no good just saying things like 'I really appreciate you'. That means shit. If there's something about her you really appreciate, or adore, then start talking to her about it, and describing it and such to her, and add at the end, 'and that is one of the reasons I really appreciate you'. Or something like that.

I hope you get the point of this.

And one thing I can't stress more, is this neeeeeeds to be done very sparingly. Otherwise it wil lose it's meaning and the relationship will turn purely affection, which isn't a good place for it to go.


Let me know if this has helped in any way at all...


Love & appreciation

~Finesse

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When you tell her these things... you REALLY need to do it, just for her. You can't be saying these things in a way where you're wanting something from it.

You can't be saying them because you want her to say something back. You can't be saying it because you want it to have benefits for you.


You must only say it as an expression of who you are, and how you feel, and if you like, a little gift to her to let her know how much she means.


Again, sparingly, and wanting nothing in return.


That is all.

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Jav: "bashing chodes 24/7 ftw"
Slywalker: "Neg the bagel"
Slywalker: "I had a 1yr old GF when I was 19"
SS_Trunks:I asked her for an extra pen, confidently....

Thanks everyone and ~Finesse ,

A lot of very insightful points.

A woman wants to feel special, but they don't want a guy who acts needy. They want to feel needed, but what they really mean is that they want you to want them as part of your life- that you take an interest in her.

And lastly, "sparingly" =) or the action loses its significance.

And lastly, do it when it should be done, not out of the blue.

And to show appreciation, don't just say it. Actually say why you appreciate her or spent your time with her.

Thank you so much. Lots of good points here.

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"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"