Ok long story short, i've tried writing the situation in detail, it's a little complicated but here are the basics.


-I've been seeing a girl who has a bf of over 2 years.

-They have a 2 week holiday planed together with another couple in 1 months time

-Her bf has been in and out of hospital, and she hasn't wanted to dump him while he's in hospital.


asuming

-She is in love with me

-She has no feelings for her bf

-I am not naeve


What should i do in this situation. I am thinking about telling her i don't want to see her until she sorts her stuff out and becomes single after shes has her holiday.

I really don't care if she goes on this holiday with her bf, it means a lot to her and i want her to go. My problem is i don't want to be spending time with her knowing she has a bf who loves and cares for her so much and still thinks he has a chance of saving their relationship.

So why hasn't she broken up with him?

1) she's been to cowardly and scared of breaking his heart which she will.

2) it would affect everyone who's going on the holiday, it would probably result in nobody going on it, and it's all been paid for.

3) I think she would have already but he keeps getting seriously sick and ending up in hospital, and i dont think I could break up with someone while they are in hospital.

4) his hospitalization has cause the holiday to get rescheduled, which has costed everyone going on the holiday extra money.

5) The holiday means a lot to her. Her parents just got divorced and her dad recently tried to commit suicide. There have also been other family dramas for her. She will be seeing her brothers who live at the holiday destination who she desperately wants to spend time with.


I'm finding it difficult to explain this situation, and i know how naeve i must look and how terrible she must look for just stringing her bf on if she does want to be with me, and i do feel kind of stupid posting this, but i really do believe she is a good girl and i want her to be mine and i know she wants the same.

When she goes on this holiday she will no doubt share the same bed with her bf. I'm just worried if i continue to see her for the next month until she goes away that this would become a problem for me.

I realise how bad this sounds and i feel bad for her bf but when i put myself in her shoes i really don't know how i would handle it.


Do i tell her we can't see each other anymore?

Do i continue to hang out with her and be supportive of her? She is really doing it tough.


NB. She is on a break with her bf for a week and has told him she just wants to be friends up till they go away, but technically they are still together.


wowo

I read only top half of your post, hopefully I have enough info to make a sound call. Here is the thing, I would not fuck with anyone that is in a relationship, has a bf married etc. First of all I can understand a one time thing, a fling whatever but when it becomes a long term thing you are just asking for trouble.

You can never trust a girl that does this with you while having a bf. I say fuck em and move on. Get someone that is not going to have an impulse to have many guys around to justify her own insecurities.

Thanks for your reply fast flyer and i can appreciate where your coming from but i will continue to persue this girl.

She has only ever cheated once, that was with me, and it took all my skills and charm for this to happen, and plenty of time and effort. I would trust her if she were my gf thats not an issue with me.

My only problem is what i should do now given the circumstances. If i want to have a good relationship with her is it best for me to tell her she can't see me until she's single? or be suportive of her and go with the flow?


wowo

No problem I guess if you want to be more than just a fun date than tell her how you feel and be prepared for her to decide. I would be the alpha dog and tell her what you want her to do aswell. Good luck

Thanks Flyer

I told her i'm not going to see her anymore until she is single and that i want her to go have her holiday and have fun.

She agreed and had a bit of a cry but she understands, but will no doubt keep trying to get me to see her.


wowo