Ok, so I'm kinda depressed right now, and here's why. I've been in this community for around a year and I still haven't gotten any girls. It's not for a lack of trying, because I go out almost every weekend, and approach many girls each time I go out. Yet I fail every time. These girls talk to me and have a good time (meaning they are laughing and giving me IOI's, etc.) but always randomly see someone else and leave.

It makes no sense to me, because on paper I'm pretty awesome. I'm not bad looking, dress well (I actually got compliments about my clothes a lot last night), am athletic (I play soccer), and play guitar in a band. Yet somehow my friends always easily get girls and I'm left going home alone.

It sucks and the only thing I can think that's ruining everything is that I'm horribly ugly, but somehow I feel that's not the case. I'm going to be a senior in college and I really don't know what to do, so any suggestions would be awesome.

Oh and please don't tell me to be more confident, because there are nights where I feel like I'm on fire and sets are opening up left and right, but it always ends the same: with my friends going home with some pretty girls and me going home alone.

Thanks for reading.

Are you returning the IOIs ? :f
Kino? Getting numbers and escalating?
or trying?

Elaborate more on how you approach these women to us and what method you use. A common sticking point with certain methods and styles like the Mystery method and other real "formula" based methods is that this exact problem tends to happen alot. Anyone can be great and open and be interesting using these methods with enough practice but thats usually where it ends.

It seems like your problem is very common and doesnt have ANYTHING to do with looks etc. but your lack of escalation. Maybe you arent sexual enough with your encounters with these women and mask your true intentions of the approach and become that funny or interesting guy and thats where it ends. How you approach these women is a big part of that and considering I dont know, I cant really say what your "problem" is.

I had the same issue a while back where I had become great at opening and could keep a conversation going but there was always something inside of me that felt showing my true sexual desire to her during this would give me away or make me out to be a pervert.

Thats why it's great to learn from PUA's like Sinn or Gunwitch or Gambler where you can learn how to dial up the sexual tension and make it seem natural. Thats the only problem I can really foresee based on what you told me, an escalation issue. Nothing at all reflecting the way you look, dress, occupation, nothing like that.

Exactly like Solteris said, your a very social guy, but youre not a sexuall guy, maybe your afraid to be sexual, you don't want to look like a perveret so you don't go further, and you have to, you don't have to be the king of the party (although it is fun and it does help) to get women... I suggest for you to look some of 60-years-of-challenge stuff

you have to escalate, and you have to go direct at one point of the other, I rather a girl to think of me as an asshole or a pervert then just a nice guy, obviously I try to combine the two, but sometimes you need to risk get a slap in your face, risk being a pervert and ESCALATE, just this can bring you girls

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"StreetLight!! Stop seeing every problem in life like it's a chick you didn't hit on!"

ESCALATE!!!

...else it's going nowhere.

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Munroe: "I kinoed the hell out of that goat"
Jav: "bashing chodes 24/7 ftw"
Slywalker: "Neg the bagel"
Slywalker: "I had a 1yr old GF when I was 19"
SS_Trunks:I asked her for an extra pen, confidently....

"but always see someone else and leave." Sounds like a cop out to me. Either you aren't trying, or you aren't trying. You can open well, so just try to number close or at least get an email. Say something like "You seem like a cool person, maybe you would like to get together sometime, whats your number/email?" Hell, today you could probably get by on just Facebook details. But I hear chicks dig you calling them and talking. And yeah, keep escalating. Like after a number, call to get some coffee, then take them back to your place to do something non sexual, then kino escalate. I'm sure if you have been on here for a year then you have read about this kind of stuff and you already know your problem and you aren't willing to change anything and will blame it on your personality or something other than your personal decisions.

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no no no no NO...

Well... actually yes you are right but I think the point here is to escalate FAST and be DIRECT you wanna get laid be sexual, don't do fun non-sexual stuff, or do them after you have sex

girls will fall inlove with a guy the fucks them

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"StreetLight!! Stop seeing every problem in life like it's a chick you didn't hit on!"

Girls want to have sex as much as you want. So don't hide your intentions about making sweet love to them the same fucking night. Go foward get your inner Barry White out .

As salesman say, Always Be Closing!
Its all very well having a good time talking but make sure the conversation is heading somewhere and we all know where it should be leading right? You should not be afraid to let the girl know you are interested in her and you find her attractive, which should not be a problem as you say you are getting IOIs from the girl. You cannot wait for permission to get you laid you have to lead,

Gus

when u approach are you just stuck in the friend zone? or do you actually escalate? if you dont escalate youll always be stuck in the lbjf zone because you dont sexually excite her so you become the friend... if you sexually excite her then youll get some play

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life sucks and then you die! deal with it

I meant tell them you are going back to your place to look at pictures or some shit but really want sex and that is the excuse to get them there without being a slut.

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I can see what u r saying..bcoz i can relate to u..i am kind of same..very good looking,outgoing,confident etc...even before joining the community..but girls are never sexually interested in me..even after learning pua stuff..i believe above all there is vitality called 'manhood' that we lack a bit..that makes a girl feel want to 'fuck' a guy..i havent figured it out myself..how to get that..somehow this seems insane and am bullshitting but this is something that even puas dont know..girls just cant picture us a sexual partner..if u wanna confirm this ask some of ur friends what they think about u hooking up with a girl or taking a girl home..am sure they will act surprised and give responses like ' am shocked, i never expected this from u' as if u r not a man and dont expect u to fuck..has happened to me a lot..pls let me know what responses ur friends gave u after u ask them..

Thanks for the input guys! I guess I wasn't escalating enough because I didn't want to come off as creepy, but fuck it, I'm gonna give it a try.

EXACTLY!!!!! risk being creepy

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"StreetLight!! Stop seeing every problem in life like it's a chick you didn't hit on!"

Dude,

I totally feel your pain. before I got involved with the community I tried it on a few times and got rejected so lost all confidence. Probably because I did not esculate properly or do anything right to set it up.

Now I kinda understand the concept and how to esculate properly, I just end up chickening out because I don't want to come off as a pervert or be the creepy dude.

My new motto is "Fuck it, lets just do this"

I guess I will find out this weekend how it goes!

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