It's amazing how many Dvd's I've watched, cd's I've listened to, and books and articles I've read on how to be more successful with women, but I think I've probably learnt more in one night actually out there trying stuff than I could possibly learn studying on my own.

I was out with a couple of friends in Oxford (UK) on Saturday evening enjoying a bit of 'pub hopping' around the more studenty of the many pubs and bars, and had a great time. I approached 8 groups of girls during the evening, with the same opener I always use because I'm used to it now, and 6 went well, 2 were not very responsive (after analyzing, I know why and can learn from this)

I was feeling pretty good about myself by the end of the night, and was nearly persuaded to approach Darius Cambell's girlfriend (Darius the pop star) when he went to the toilet, but chickened out at the last minute. LOL

My question: Being with even just a couple of friends who are positive and enjoy having a laugh gives me such a boost of confidence, but when I go out on my own I can't seem to create the same positive state of mind, and my attempts to approach always lack energy. Having friends I know I can go back to after the approach, what ever happens, always makes me feel more secure and it somehow feels more natural and fun. Have you any advice for me as I'd like to be able to sarge on my own during the week when my friends aren't around ? Do some guys actually prefer to go out on their own ?

Ken

The greatest advantage sarging on your own imo, is that you will always have the opportunity to sarge on more girls on your own than if you are with your friends, obviously because you will not have them around and chatting with them etc. Most of my friends are AFC's anyway and I prefer it once we are in a bar ill go on my own and start sarging. All comes down to time management for me, but its a personal thing.

Just try it for a while and see what happens, you can always go back and sarge with your mates if youre still not comfortable.

Yes, I see what you're saying.

I think my frame of mind at the moment, as I'm only just starting to try and get this area of my life sorted, is to just try and have fun, and this obviously combined with being out with my friends, and meeting women makes for an enjoyable evening out.

Maybe, as you say, I need to go out on my own and take things a little more seriously. Do you think then I'll be able to learn this stuff quicker ?

I've noticed that even when I go out sarging in a group, the approach is always by myself. The other PUAs only come along for an assist or to add to the vibe and help demonstrate our value as "the guys to be around." When I'm trying to transition to the isolation portion and get the girl alone, it is sometimes easier when I go out alone. If you hook the girl well enough and you have her eating out of your palm with magic tricks, sometimes her friends will get the idea and let you two be. If you are with friends, they may worry a bit more and not leave her with you.

Just a few thoughts...