Hi guys, I'm 16 years old and I live in The Netherlands. I know this girl I really like, and she definetly likes me too. I only see her once a week on saturdays, and on most vacation days because I know her from work. She told a friend of mine that it would be weird to kiss a guy with braces (yeah I have braces, but there coming of in an month or two, can;t wait!!) so she is thinkinh about kissing me wich is awesome. She has a boyfriend right now but there not really close or anything, and she tells me she is losing interest in that guy when we talk about that kind of stuff. But a few days ago I asked her out, I brutally fucked up because I was really nervous, although when talking to her im pretty layed back, this made me really nervous. She told me she was doing something with friends that day so we couldn't do anything together. She said to my friend that it wouldn't work out anyway, and that here are many guys like me out there.

So my question is, why does she say stuff like that although I get big IOI's from her, and I''m giving her IOI''s, and what can I do to be more unique than other guys in her eyes. My guess is that I have to build more comfort and get to know her better or something like that but I would like a proffesional opinion on this. Thanks for reading this and for (probably) answering my question.

Hey Joris,

So my guess in the other thread of yours was correct your indeed a dutchy.
What made you that nervous? What did you learn from this?
Instead of talking about another guy you could rather be the guy that she wants. The possibility was there, but odds are now against you... because your not taking your life by your balls.
She wants you to stop talking and start doing something if you ask me.
Cause especially most guys of your age have big mouthes but fairly little to actually do.

You need to stop asking, start telling. Get my drift?

More comfort is not needed, on your side it might be but hers... what i'm reading there were some possibilities there.

Get it together man!

-- WS

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