i dont know if its just my luck with the girls i go for, or if its just the way all women are...

please share techniques and or experiences....

it seems that with every girl i deal with .... the innocent flirting escalates, becomes sexual but always subtle, always suggestive double entoundras, etc.... then i make the moves and close on the first or second date. (good)

this leads to a one week fling.... hot sex with a new girl is the best, her attitude is usually..."i want your cock", saying things like "you better bring the goods tonight", or "bring lube tonight so we can get a little dirty", or "you wanna let me know about all of those perverse fetishes of yours?" (great)

after i about a week.... 5 or 6 nights of sexual encounters.... emotions take over in their' mind, i suppose (they start to fall in love). saying things like "i havent seen you in 2 days ", or "i loved sleeping next to you", or "can you come over and snuggle me, i miss you"............. attitude changes from horny nympho to lovey dovey wifey. (ut ohh)

this happenes with every girl i deal with. am i doing something wrong here??? or is every woman like this?? i try my best to frame things in a sexual manner without ever being direct.... but they want to turn me into the boyfriend, right now i just want to be the lover.

is it ok to be a little more direct with sexual suggestions after weve had sex several times??? saying things like "oh you mean like the time i had my tounge in your ass, is that what your talking about ???"

i cant think of any other way to keep things framed sexually without being direct at this stage....

i dont want to be the heartbreaker, but i also dont want to resort to displaying lower value by burping in her face, etc.

share experiences....

If what you say is true, you do not have a 'problem' my friend. You are achieving what most on this forum are trying to achieve. ie. closing quickly and consistently.

About the framing.... framing sexually does not mean that she going to only want to f*ck and not be your girlfriend, in fact a sexual frame will make her want you MORE as a long term partner as you are satisfying her in that respect, why would she move away from that. Its the NON-sexual frame is what will kill attraction and create friends.

I think the only thing you need to do is be upfront about what youre looking for when you first get things going with the girl. This way there are no disappointments for them as you told them how it was from the start.

thanks for the advise, ive done this before in the past... mentioned not intentions of an immediate relationship.

my track record for them running for the hills is 100% :\

Maybe its how you're wording it.

Instead of 'hey i just want to be fuck buddies'....

say something like.....'im not looking to get into anything serious right now but if the right women comes along then i would definitely consider settling down with her.'

The first statement above is an extreme example but Im sure you catch my drift.

On another note, if you are only interested in being friends with benefits then you probably dont have feelings for them, meaning when they run for the hills you are not left any worse than you were before. ie. youre not getting hurt by them so just keep hammering at it until you find one that doesn't have feelings for you either (but that still wants to have sex). Thats pretty much your desired set up from what i gather.

great point, i like the softer approach ill have to give it a shot

yeah, at this point after breaking off a 3 year relationship with an ex a few months back, im not ready to attach any feelings to any women. ... ive been with 3 girls since and the variety is too good to get locked up right now

thats where im at... thanks a lot for the advise