Hi guys, just graduated college, a few hits and misses there, for some reason, I haven't been actively looking for romance for a year, mostly working, transitioning I guess.

Recently, I've this weird sensations before I fall asleep, voices in my head saying "I'll never get married", "I'll never be able to find a girlfriend" etc.

I wake up, it turns back to normal for the rest of the day.

I've taken this as a sign to start meeting more women. Any tips for someone really rusty and noobish? (btw I hate clubbing, the ones I've been too are usually too loud to do anything anyway)

Btw, there's a potential target at a computer store near my home, she looks quite young (the whole "too young", "has boyfriend" "too ugly" limiting scenarios seem to prevent me from meeting more women despite their status, for another thread I think)

Anyway, there are several guys in the shop, so I'm not really sure how to pull it off, they may be protective or something.

What is the goal? Open-> #close ->date??

Yeah I know the feeling about getting back in the game. I only recently came back to this myself after a couple of back to back long term relationships. Its funny how easy it is to lose some of your skills after a couple years in relationships.

Anyway as far as getting a girlfriend. Well my last couple girls I met in clubs but I am getting too old for clubs now at 35. Honestly thats not the issue as much as at 35, I am just tired of clubs. So anyway I've been doing day game and it is surprisingly easy to get chicks that way. So here is what you do:

Go into the computer store and walk up to your target. DON'T think about asking her out or even # closing. Why? Because you will psych yourself out. Just start talking about computers to her. Have a normal conversation. If it's going well tell her an interesting story and use a little push and pull with her. Now obviously my post is being very general. I'm not going to write 20 paragraphs on techniques here. But I assume you know some. After you've been talking with her for a bit you'll be much more comfortable and going for a number or email close will be easy. Just don't think about it at the start. Think of talking to her like you would any other normal person. Hope that helps a little.

Hey, thanks, day game sounds good. Basically just chatting to random people and going on from there.

The stress free approach works, but might it be detrimental if I don't focus on results?

I'm not sure what my subconscious is telling me, basically I don't feel a great urge to get things done. Pretty contented with my life now. Just not sure what I'm missing