i have difficulties in the thin line between teasing and negs. i use negs often, and some girls like them. but what i see is that, if i bring them over quite confidently with a smile, others girls, both shy and the hot confident ones, see me often as a jerk. They don't think it's funny and feel insulted, even with the classical negs.

some negs also seem to difficult to understand for them.

i'm now trying to get a bit off the negs. sometimes they work and then it's great. but sometimes i don't get the reaction which i want to get (=them laughing) and then i feel like stop negging at all and just talk normally.

but still, i think i have to tease girls in order to attract them. i see a lot of players busting and teasing girls till they drop, and apparently, as most of us might know, the girls love it. they often stick to these players and start to make out.

so, i want your opinion about it!

How much should you tease girls? in which stages of sarge/ conversation? are there moments you shouldn't tease or neg at all?

and what are good things to tease a girl about? what are according to you the things you should say and definitivly not? and how to deliver it?

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Hey, it's a common misconception that negging and teasing are closely related.
However, they're really two different things.

Negs are realy just disqualifiers used in the beginning of an interaction, in which makes a girl actively think you dislike her. If a girl laughs at a neg, then it's not a neg.

Teasing, is far more sarcastic. It's funny, and everybody laughs. It creates familiarity early on, and shows you're comfortable meeting total strangers and treating them like you've known them for a while.

You can tease a girl on everything. For example, if the girl is short- you can poke fun of their height. If a girl is kind of fiesty, I call them scrappy, as if they want to fight anyone. It's nothing too serious, and the delivery of a tease is really important.

The delivery of a neg is more serious, and a tease is said smiling, just joking around.

Hope that helps.

Use light negs. Like say something that isn't THAT big of a deal. Just kind of tease her about something, but laugh about it TOGETHER.

Whenever you use a neg, make sure you follow up with something immediately after. Neg and then change subjects. If you neg and then stop.......... There's a long.... awkward..... pause.... And she fills the gap by calling you a dick, asshole, jerk, etc.

Make sure you have the right bodylanguage with the neg. A lot of times girls can call out a faker when they see one. You need to put on a good show to pretend like you roll with 10s.

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I have to disagree with you just a little bit on that one. With a neg, the girl SHOULD laugh a little bit, but then think in her head "Oh, is my makeup really smugged?, Does my breath smell bad? ETC."

She should kind of chuckle and then start to feel a little self conscious.

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well the thing about teasing girls about her appearences is that they can realy insult.

confident girls will laugh, but a less confident girl (i met quite a lot and there are a lot of hb8+ who are realy insecure) would be insulted if you would tease because she's small.

to smaller girls, i do sometimes say things like "hey! how's the weather down there? (big smile)".

for the rest, don't know how to tease a girl for being small without having the chance of insulting her.

things i like to tease girls for:

- being small, her hair,... the usual negs
- being superficial
- being drunk
- being bossy
- not knowing something

i also sometimes like to tease her with 'omg', for example:

me: i'm coming from big city X
her: where is that?
me: what? you're not going to tell me you never heard about city X?
her: uhm ... yesss...?
me: OMG, you can't be serious! you don't know it? i can't see you right now (turning away from her in a playfull way)

reaction i want to get (and i also get sometimes, mostly when they're drunk):

her: no no no! don't leave me! (pulling me back)/ or laughing
me: (after acting i was about to ignore her, turn back to her with a smile, and start talking to her about big city X)


do you guys tease her all the time? or do you stop teasing her as time passes and conversation becomes deeper/ more intense/ less superficial/ .... ?

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