Up until March I was in a 4 year relationship which started in my sophmore year of highschool. I wasn't too great with women before this relationship and obviously didn't come out with much knowledge of anything except how to be a "boyfriend". I've managed to get on with my life fine without letting the pain of this transition hold me back but it seems like lately it's started to get worse. There is constantly something happening that reminds me of her and makes it near impossible to keep these painful thoughts out of my head. I'm at a loss here and the only solution I can come up with is to drop upcoming fall classes at the local university and enroll at one a few states away in Colorado. I'm not close with my family anyways and there are only a few close friends I will miss. I feel like the only way I can get past this 100% is to either get the hell away from here or be surrounded by enough women that I just don't care anymore.

Also, the breakup wasn't nasty, it was basically mutual but I always love a hand after I fold and this one I can't figure out how to let go of.

If you've been through this kind of stuff or know someone who has feel free to share what method worked. Thanks in advance and sorry for this massive wall of bitching text

damn man. Welcome to the world of breakups. I kinda of know how it goes. Yeah mine wasn't as bad as yours, but I had a relationship with a girl for a year.

It takes time man. That's all I can say. Have fun, get your mind off her, get to know other girls, Workout, make your life better. Get into PUA MORE. I'm telling you, PUA helped me overcome my recent ex. It could help you too

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heres a question for a bit of thought do you miss her? or do you miss the idea of her?
heres what i mean the first question is basically do you miss the actual person as in you want to be with her and only her! OR...... do you you miss the fact that you were in a relationship and that made you feel good.
the reason i ask is simple if you miss the person its a case of oneitis and its a difficult thing to get rid of not impossible difficult and heres a good way to do it...ONLY THINK ABOUT HER NEGATIVES WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT HER AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP..FOR EXAMPLE WHEN SHE HOGS ALL THE COVERS WHEN YOUR IN BED, WHAT SHE LOOKS LIKE WITHOUT HER MAKEUP WHEN SHE FIRST WAKES UP, HER MORNING BREATH BEFORE SHE BRUSHES HER TEETH HER BURPING AND FARTING THINK OF THE MOST VULGAR THINGS YOU CAN AND IT WILL BREAK THE ASSOCIATION.. this is going to be the most painful part your gonna need to cut her out of your life the feelings will stick around as long as your in contact as you'll have the feeling that you'll get back together

now for the happy thing question 2 the idea of being in a relationship lucky for you that feeling is transferable when you get into a different ltr the feeling will reemerge when you find someone else when she makes you feel special

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life sucks and then you die! deal with it

I know a spell that will remove her instantly from your mind if you really want it---

Druidic white magic--no dealings with the devil.

ps you will need a very strong stomach

yeah I probably wouldn't go for the magic potion.

This is what I came to realize with my most recent ex. SHE did not make me happy. I made myself happy while being with her. Get it?

I always tried pleasing her and making her feel happy. I thought it was her that made me happy, but it wasn't. So I found out that I can game girls and make myself happy. I don't need her. I choose my own mood. It's the girl that can decide if she wants to be a part of my perfect world or not.

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it's not easy man

it's best to get on with your life. Go sarge other women and gftow also helps.
Finding a new girl is the best thing you could do.
Im in the same situation as you are only my relationship with her lasted 2.5 years. we also broke up 4 months ago. At first it was also mutual, but then she wanted me back. I wanted her back too then and when we were just about to make it up she dumped me again. She just wanted to be friends. and she was also really mean about it.

now 4 months later, she has got a new bf and im still heartbroken.

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Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

Dang Steke, now she's just the type of girl that wants control. That's why she pulled you back in and then dumped you. She wanted to be the alpha in the relationship.
Kinda like "Oh I want you back! You want me back too? Oh I change my mind, you can't have me."
Those girls are the worst and not even worth it

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Hey bro, I know how you feel my friend. Its a hard and grueling process. Let me tell you about my experience and you can use it to your advantage.

I was in a relationship for a year and a half, the last 6 months were on and off. I loved this girl to death, I was a complete AFC. I would buy this girl flowers, chocolates, take her out to dinner, basically do anything for her. Last November she decided she wanted a break, so i let her go and did not keep contact. After two weeks i tried to contact her and she wouldnt reply. I started seeing pictures up on facebook, hearing things from friends. It really tore my heart in two because i felt that I could have spent the rest of my life with this girl. At first i started falling really deep into drugs, i felt helpless and depressed. I had lost the one person I loved more than anything and did not have a desire to live without her. I was so hopeless that one day I picked up a book that my sister had given to me, this book was The Game by Neil Strauss. I read through this book like a mad scientist attempting to turn peanuts into oil. I was so curious to figure out what had happened in that relationship, and where it went wrong. I would read for days at a time, reading almost any pua book i could get my hands on. I sat down one day and wrote out what I didnt like about my ex, and the qualities i desire in a woman. I realized my ex girlfriend only had 3 of those qualities. Still with this i was still determined to get her back. I stopped doing drugs, i began hitting the gym frequently and talking to other girls. I began practicing my PUA skills and became phenomenal. My friends were offering me money to teach them. I had girls left right and centre coming from every which way. I ended up sleeping with 3 of my ex's friends and turned a lot of them against her. I had not contacted my ex for a month but she was still in my heart and i desired to get her back. One day i contacted her asking her to hang out, and she agreed. We hung out two more times and we slept together. I found out she was sleeping with another guy too and it hurt me so bad that i revealed that i was sleeping with her friends. she freaked out on me and her friends. Again i worked hard on myself for 2 months, and i saw how many women i was attracting. A month ago i decided to contact her again, weve been sleeping together since and i have no intention of being in a relationship with her. Since we broke up Ive worked on myself and created the value which i lacked earlier. She kept partying and becoming an object to guys. Now that my life is going great and ive found balance, I no longer desire her because I've come to realize that girls are only an aspect of your life. You feel inadequate because the inner you is not adequate. You need food for your soul, which is knowledge. Dont make the same mistake i made by going back and having a booty call. There are plenty of other girls out there that would be more than happy to have you. Before you even think about meeting new girls you have to face your biggest enemey, which is you. Become at peace with your body and I promise that your presence alone will attract many girls let alone your ex. The biggest payback you can give her is for her to see you doing well and being successfull. Anything is possible with knowledge my friend. Its been 6 months since me and my ex broke up and I only feel like ive completely gotten over her as of late. I value myself far too much now to make the mistake of getting back with someone who did not work out in the first place. THERE ARE SO MANY WOMEN OUT THERE ALL FOR THE TAKING. Rembmer 90 percent of men are AFC's and if you have the tools to pick up the women you desired then you're going to be that 1 out of 10 guys that a girl will take home at the end of the night.

FIND BALANCE

BE AT PEACE WITH YOURSELF

IF AFTER A YEAR YOU STILL FEEL YOU LOVE THIS GIRL, WHICH I GARAUNTEE YOU WONT, THEN CONTACT HER.

Give her space, dont contact her, and keepyourself busy with positive things in your life.