| I was digging through my HD and I found my old diary of when I FIRST started PUAing at local malls. I think it'd be a good read for anyone that starting out too. Im just gonna copy and paste it. If anyone actually gets any benefit from reading my first night out, great! Or if anyone just wants a good laugh at my feeble attempts, cool with me too lol. Im just posting it for good fun. It actually helped me ALOT to go back and read, if only for a confidence boost as to my progression in this crazy game:
Day 1 - Went to (My local mall) at roughly 8pm and got ready for my first night of practicing. Was pretty confident going in but even as I was walking in, I was drawing blanks as to what I was going to say to these girls. I knew when I got to the actual body of the mall there was no turning back. I wouldnt forgive myself if I didnt open my very first set. Regardless of outcome.
I walk in through the Macy's entrance to get myself acclimated and get psyched up. As soon as I walk into the mall, I see to the right of me sitting on the bench a beautiful 3 Set. They were the perfect target, I knew I couldnt pass that opportunity up. Honestly, I was nervous about running game in general so I wasnt looking into the numbers in the sets as much, which surprised me but the fear of the entire approach was what was killing me.
So, I start to slowly walk up to them, when my nervous stomach kicked in. I Bee-lined stright up the escalator and went to the Food Court abthrooms where I took a minute to collect myself. I knew I was letting myself down, that I knew it'd kill me if I didnt open a set tonight but I still couldnt shake my nervousness. Eventually, I gathered myself up and walked out and back down to hopefully catch that same set. My target was locked, I was not going to let that set get away from me and since none of them noticed me it was still ripe for the picking.
As I walk back to the group, I noticed another 2 set eating at a table nearby....I dont know why I didnt engage them, and looking back on it I realized I just used wanting to open the other group as an excuse not to open this one but the opportunity threw itself in my face...and I didnt bite. Im so ashamed of this. This girl in this two set was staring intently at me as I passed. With my limp, it's rare for a woman to keep an entended period of eye contact with me without any diversion to my legs, but it was there. The interest was THERE. I remembered i one of the many books I had read that besides contact, women show interest by proximity. As Im walking back to the original 3 set, I noticed the two girls that were sitting down eating their food, were right BEHIND ME! And they were coming up to my side. The girl showed interest and almost seemed like she teleported all the way to me she was so fast.
I knew that this was an opportunity I shouldnt pass up...but I did. I was frozen. These girls flew to me and when we were side by side, they slowed down and matched my pace a few seconds before eventually turning too another store and gone forever. A perfect opportunity to open a moving set. Gone.
For the first time in my life I was looking through these new eyes, opportunistic eyes. I can see sets and potential women where not even a few months ago none of these women seemed even remotely approachable. I knew better, I knew which women were perfect targets. But my lack of experience has already frozen me twice...but I WONT let it beat me tonight. I came to open a set and I WILL.
There they were, I walked all the way back to the Macy's entrance and there they were, the perfect set. These girls were sitting in a low traffic area so when I approached, I'd be the center of attention. I paced and paced which seemed like 10 minutes near thr Starbucks...and I was actually drawing a few looks. But I didnt care, I was so in my mind battling with this fear, that I was oblivious to it all. But, something inside me finally said fuck it. All the people that have been in my shoes before, my situation is something MANY guys have been in and have succeeded and also failed. I knew what I wanted to do, and Im going to do it. I started walking towards them, scared out of my mind but determined.
I was so shocked from it all, I could only think of one opener at the time, so I approached the three girls. With head over shoulder, feet facing away and a strong voice, I spoke up and gave the opener I had worked on for so long in the mirror. 'Hey guys, I need your opinion on something...see...see I got this friend, he's somewhere in the mall, and he's been going out with this new girl for...3 weeks it is? Yeah! Three weeks. And she found out..." So on and so forth. It started horribly, my words ran together with nervousness and it showed. At first, the girls were very unresponsive and not talkative but SLOWLY warmed up as I asked the question and started to elaborate. I noticed in myself right away as the time went on in the opener, everything I said got slightly smoother and smoother and it became a half decent interaction with these women. Maybe it was the girls, or an error of my own, but they were still more to the point with their responses and didnt elaborate very much. Possibly just a lack of interest on the topic? Location? Im not sure, Im still mulling it over.
Now, I did notice that only two of the three girls were engaged....looking back on it I dont even think the third girl said a word the entire time but I was in the heat of the moment with the other two that I didnt pay much attention to her. Looking back on it, there could have been a lot of things I could have said to get her involved. I thought of this later on in the day, "Is she always this quiet?!" It...shows playfulness and it should get her involved without being a hostile remark. Of course at the time, I didnt think of it when it matters but hey. I need to work on that calibration.
After the opener ran out and they gave their opinions, I was frozen...I went back to that original feeling I had before I approached...but now all eyes were on me. So I used the little Emergency Exit plan by saying my friend was in the mall an excuse to eject to "look" for him. They politely said bye and we parted ways. Every book I read said to never eject when you run out of things to say, and I knew all night I was breaking all the golden rules but the battle in my head was making me forget everything and what I had just done took every ounce of will power to muster up the courage to talk. I was still proud. That was going to be the first of many successful sets.
The night went downhill after this though. I jumped a few different places, the movie theatre where there were no potential sets. Remind me by the way to never go to the movies...I may give it another shot but things are way too hectic there to really command a set. I also jumped to the nearest bookstore and walked around. I never realized that this place was so target rich! Walking in, I noticed two cute girls sitting at a cafe table chatting it up. And most importantly there were single girls walking around. No groups, no friends to worry about. It was amazing. I walked around, said a few "hi's" but I never was able to get a set started. I found out that logistically, a bookstore is awkward to strike up a conversation unless timing is just that good. I didnt wanna feel like a stalker roaming bookshelves, not even LOOKING at the books, and staring at the women walking around.
The logistics were bad, but maybe im using that as another excuse. I dont know. But what I DO know is that it's nothing like the books...until now all I have done and associated myself with PUAing was through books. Sitting in my room learning all about psychology and the way it works gave me a shining confidence...but quickly went away when thrown out into the field. I will become great at this. Maybe not the best, but I will make this become a part of my life where I can be happy with my level of play and achieve great new things I thought would never be possible. But now I know that it wont happen without work. And not just reading a book, I HAVE to get out and keep doing this. There's no other way. I opened my very first set today. It was slightly awkward and I was too in my head to focus on the details, but Im able to see exactly what I should have done, and I'll be back tomorrow ready to try again. I'll fail again. I'll fail alot. But Im not going to stop this, what Im doing is me now, and I will become great with women. They arent scary like I made them out to be. If I had a little experience, I would have loved to stay and chatted with those three girls. And I would have loved to open those girls that got ridiculously close to me (Proximity - REMEMBER THAT!!).
My future attempts at PUing will be better, im sure of it. I came out tonight with a mission and everything to prove, and as long as I opened that one set and realized my faults from that night, as far as im concerned im on the right track. I wont get roped into my successes and failures but to go out and have fun and learn.
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