Hello PUAs,

I am in need of your helps to clarify the following things whether a girl with BF like me or not (she been with him for 3 years now). 1st off, She didn't drop the B-bomb at all!! we been talking for like a year now yet none were drop (lucky or not?) 2nd, she said she had some feelings for me before but not now. So I decided to break off the friendship we have (5 years) I deleted her on Facebook and stop texting. But the next day, she texted me asking to see if I stop talking to her now, would I consider talk to her again after months or years. Then I finally gave in then a few days later she asked me to add her back on Facebook again and I did. Another thing is, we texted each other like crazy. Also, I don't know much about her BF. All I know is that he didn't come to her graduation. So help me out

thanks

That right there means you will NEVER get her short of drastic self-development and maturing.

Sorry, but you need to hear it. You really create trust issues when you do something like that to a girl, and you create an unbalanced awkwardness in every interaction. She will now feel that everytime you talk to her it's for any other reason than just to enjoy her company/attention as a friend. Putting a friend in the "lover or friend" spot (ESPECIALLY when you've never had any meaningfull romantic interaction) is like eating a huge jar of AFC sauce.

I dont quite understand what you mean right there

Contrary to what Jolly Green said, I think you did the right thing.

You can't spend the rest of your life waiting for that girl to give a definite answer. And at this point, it sounds like it's taking a negative impact on you.

Even if that girl really wanted you, she's leaving her boyfriend for another guy, and in this case it's you. What's not to stop her from leaving you? Also, who's to say she has a BF? Maybe it's some guy she's creating to make sure she doesn't hurt your feelings.

I think you're better off not seeing her for a while and doing your own thing.

She does have a BF. I saw her Facebook status. Plus, it wasn't her who brought up the BF. It was me who brought it up because I was desperate ( I asked her to attend prom with me and she said she is going with "someone"...why would I bother post it? because it is the 2nd time she said that. I asked her to attend winter formal and same rely.) A few female friends of mine said that commitment is what prevent her from breaking off with the BF.

based on what you're saying im sure she likes you. With that in mind, play the friend role yet act as if you can't control yourself with her. Girls also have "backup plans" which you might be. I don't understand why you're sweating the fact that she has a boyfriend. Does it really matter if she's digging you? Besides trust me, the ones with boyfriends are even better than single hos

lol "backup plans?" Sound like I am a rebound. But I doubt that because this is super shy and too nice to do that to me.