heres the gist-

Saturday night in my city on the craziest strip with all the sickest bars. met a sick broad in the club went out on the street for a breather with her and her friend, and i had em loving me. I DHV'd pretty well; some examples- the topic of me backpacking through asia somehow arose, they saw me leave the club and get into a limo, and i said they could both come back to my place for an after party in the pool with everyone else, but they were heading back to the other chicks grandma's house or something.

anywho so it went all really well and i pulled k-close and got her bbm and all that fun stuff. the next day i shoot her a text and it starts going back and forth, but what i find is that she'll have read my bbm message like 2 minutes after i send it, and then takes like an hour to finally reply which is hella annoying, and she hasnt responded to the last one i sent yesterday which replied to her question about the my night with me saying 'it was good, but felt like it ended way too early. was grandma's a riot or what?'

i understand thats not a legitimate question and is pretty sarcastic which is why she may have felt the need not to reply, but still. anywho i figure i may as well give it one last shot today or whatever and see if i can get this back on track, but i need something nice and sweet thatll help me so i can score a day 2 with this girl. i was thinking something along the lines of 'playing hard to get now? some friends and i are going down town again tonight to ____________, and its gonna be sick so come with'

does anyone else have any ideas on what i could text back to her?

thanks boys

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Eh, you might have pissed her off with the grandma comment.

You sound like you're pushing the interaction. You want things to happen right away, and you want to cut through the bullshit.

But that isn't how this kind of interactions works.

If you want to get her, just have a normal sort of interaction, maybe even apologize for your text last night, and then go ahead and arrange a day 2. All said, it may not work, in which case, you'd be best to move on and just fix this kind of thing for next time.

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yeye, i chatted about it with my friend who is a lady killer, and i got a better picture.

yeah i feel like i did push it too quick, i got impatient and just wanted to skip all the subtle fluff shit and cut straight to the point.

anywho, it wasnt her grandma, but her friend's whos, for where they stayed the night. ill skip the apologetic part cause i dont wanna come off as a complete sorry chump, and if she did get a little offended, well thats unfortunate haha.

anywho i feel like ive dug myself a bit of a hole which sucks, but no big deal, and the plan is just to drop her a line this weekend later in the night to see what shes up to, and if she cant, then suggest a day 2 some other time. she also mentioned she wanted to meet up in like 2 weeks when rhianna is here for her concert so i may take her up on that when the time comes and suggest going to a bar when shes done at the show

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why do you guys think that message pissed her off? it's not the least bit sarcastic or insulting at all. there could be tons of reasons why she didn't respond to you. maybe the conversation was boring or something.

at any rate, don't apologize and dont ask her out. wait a couple of days, re-initiate with something clever or funny, try to get a good vibe going. then, when it's going real well, try to get a phone conversation or arrange a meetup.

I dont think she would be pissed off, i think my main problem was that i didnt wait long enough to send her a text. that's what i really gotta recover from. the texts i sent werent all that boring either, but i mean you never really know if there was some logistic factor for her reason of taking so long, as if she were working or something.

yeah man, any idea on that clever/funny something to re-initiate it? im still sticking with not talking to her till this weekend unless she messages me before then.

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yeah, the time thing can definitely come across as needy if she's responding to your texts after an hour or so and then you instantly respond as soon as you get hers. I like to at the very least take the same amount of time as they're taking to respond to me. longer if possible.

when you get real good at text game, they'll start being the impatient ones instantly responding while you make them wait a while. they'll sometimes even send multiple messages before you respond once. you know, doing all the needy/creepy shit that we can't get away with lol.

if you don't hear from her, just wait until after the weekend and reinitiate monday. i've become a big fan of the skittles/m&m opener. as a matter of fact, it's usually the first one i use whenever i start texting with a new girl for the first time. remember to transition off of it into normal conversation after like 1 or 2 exchanges and go from there. be playful and engaging. if you start to get good vibes, setup a phone call or meetup for later.

nah, i time my texts pretty well like that. usually ill just imitate how long they take to text back or take even longer. what i meant was that the first text i sent to her, i think was too soon after i got her bbm

why do you think i should wait till after the weekend? i kinda figured if i was gonna pull a day 2, it would be best to give her a shout on friday night and try to schedule something on the weekend cause thats probably easiest on everyone right?

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but there's really no evidence of that at all. personally, i like to strike while the iron is hot. some guys want to wait to come across as non-needy. i dont think it matters much either way, tbh. i dont think it's a DLV at all that you sent one the next day. if she's into you, it's certainly not going to matter. how u come across during the conversation is far, far more important than how quickly you texted her.

well if you're trying to get her to hang out with you this weekend, then talking to her friday night about doing it is probably going to be too late. not only that, but it comes across as you have the entire weekend free to do whatever you want with her because you have no plans. if you're going someplace cool and you want her to tag along, that makes more sense, but it just doesnt sound like shes ready for that yet because you havent gotten to that point. also, it gives her the chance to contact you at some point before the weekend.

if you dont hear from her, re-initiate on monday with something funny and then segway into conversation about how cool your weekend was. make shit up if you have to. if the conversation is going extremely slowly again, cut it off after a few messages by just not responding and reevaluate.