Hey all,

I'm new to this, so I'd really appreciate some help figuring out where to go from here.

There's this girl (and it's not a case of one-itis) who I see very occasionally from work. When I do see her we talk and get along very well. She seems really interested in me and enthusiastic to talk to me. We don't get to talk long enough or be in an environment comfortable enough for me to force IOIs or escalate.

It turns out we live really close, so I suggested going for a drink which she said she couldn't make because she already had plans. I took this as an IOD and moved on. However the last two times I saw her at work she brought it up and asked if we could arrange another time. This sounds good right? But she mentioned bringing her friend.

So I'm thinking the fact that she actually asked me If I'd want to meet up could be an IOI, but then bringing her friend seems like a IOD because surely that's to make sure I don't try anything with her and she just genuinely wants to be friends? I'm so confused. What do I do?

Thanks!

Andy

I don't think it's an IOD, but you could have too much comfort.

I would bring along some other people, just because I would think it would be awkward if it were just you three. Bring along some people, and don't talk to them personally, but make sure that they're introduced to people and having a good time.

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You should always escalate kino. Just keep it simple not like fuckin grabbing boobs and shit when you say hi of course lol. I'm just talking about holding eye contact and even giving a high five. This is all easy shit that helps escalate then once you get comfortable with her you can escalate more

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ok thanks for the input.

I will definitely take a friend, and I guess I could try harder with the kino in future.

Is there any way her taking a friend could just be to prevent the convo turning dry or something innocent like that? I just can't see why she'd think it was a good idea if she was actually in to me.

Thanks again.

Don't take just one friend. It will be like you are setting up a double date...and if your friend is an AFC and isn't apart of the conversation or talking to the other girl....her friend will get bored and eventually cock block you.

If she is joining YOUR group of friends...you have a lot of people to introduce her to, and more chances of having interesting conversation.