met this girl awhile ago, she started flirting, so i returned, knew she had a BF from the beginning so i played it off, which of course made her more interested (girl is a HB 9, def. used to getting what she wants). the first month or two we would just hang out every once in awhile, always made out at the end etc. passed alot of shit tests, a few stick out in my mind though.. she stated once that "you couldnt handle me, my BF is the only one that can deal with me... thats why i havent left him" ??

the second one is i was teasing her about being able to steal girls away from there BF's, esp. when they like me more than them.. her reply was something like "your not the guy that starts talking to a girl who has a bf, and expects the world to revolve around them are you?" that one threw me.. i said "no, im smarter than that.. im approaching you with caution"

now, a few weeks ago, we hung out, right before i went on a 4 day vacation. she said "is it wrong i like the way you kiss me so much?" then the whole time i was gone, she was blowing me up.. probably because she wanted control to keep me away from other girls. i get back, she invites me over her house, and fool around alot. the next week she is messaging me all week. now this week it has died down alot.. ?? very confused, she is obviously testing me, and unhappy in her relationship.

i dont have "oneitis" for this girl.. but i do like her alot... advice? i dont sense she is playing games, i pick up on that quick. for almost 3 weeks we talk/message everyday. any advice on keeping prizability? or general suggestions.. leave it alone? confused by this one. thanks.

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"dont ever make someone a priority, when you are just an option"

It seems like she is trying to regain control in your relationship.

From what you've described, she is definitely in to you, but it used to guys dropping everything for her. She is used to a guys life revolving around her. If you become that guy, she will lose interest.

Don't be needy. She needs to feel that you can be with any girl you want, at any time you want, and that she is lucky you choose to spend any time with her at all. If she tries to meet up, you could start to "already have plans" for that night. Don't always be available when she is in the mood.

And location, Maryland? What part?

i get that feeling as well.. whenever I ask her to hang out.. she kind of blows it off, but then a few hours later will message me and want to do something or hang out.

this weekend i asked her twice and she blew it off.. so i didnt pursue. anytime weve talked this week its been her messaging me. she is DEFINITLEY used to her bf doing whatever she wants.. ive seen them together and he follows her like a puppy dog. he is a def. afc. insecure, and dosnt stand up to her at all. i do. she calls me her "make out bf" lol..

the last time we did something, i told her that i didnt know if i could hang out that night because a girl friend was coming into town so i wasnt sure what was up.. she asked me to come over about 2 hours later.. sometimes i hate these games...

im in central MD..

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"dont ever make someone a priority, when you are just an option"

If shes dating him and making out with you what makes you think that if she was dating you she wouldn't make out with someone else?

Just a thought. It's easy to think you have some seriously solid game and no girl would do that but she must just have bad character like that or just be trying to play multiple guys and have her fill of escapades.

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Ahead of my time, like I live my whole life backwards.

I think you've got her figured out and that you're doing great. Keep playing the game. Don't respond to all her calls/texts, blow off plans occasionally, tell her you're busy when she wants to hang out occasionally, even if you don't really have anything else to do. Talk to/date/hang out with other girls and subtly let her know about it. She's slowly figuring out that you're the prize.

Like somebody else said, as soon as you become the guy that's always there for her whenever she wants, she's gonna lose interest. She can get that from pretty much any guy she wants, including her AFC boyfriend. Don't be that guy. You're on the right track.