I’m in college and I don’t have a facebook. Even if I were to get a facebook, I don’t know too many people, so I would probably have as little as 25 friends on there, maybe 50 max, but I doubt it. I’m perfectly capable of acting social and carrying on a conversation, though, and I’m attractive, so I doubt that they would expect me to be a person that knows very few people.

So I have 2 questions. If you’re talking with a girl and she finds out that you don’t have a facebook (like if the topic of facebook comes up and you tell her you don’t have one), will that cause problems? Is it a DLV? Can you still pick up girls successfully without a facebook? Do people in general look down on people without facebooks? What’s a good way to tell her that you don’t have a facebook without making it look like a DLV?

If I do get a facebook and I had 25 friends on there and she saw that, would it cause problems? Is it a DLV? Would it ruin my chances with her? Please don’t respond with something like “get to know more people”. What would be a good way to explain your lack of facebook friends without making it look like a DLV?

I know that’s a lot of questions, but I’m just really curious about this because I have no idea what to expect and how to deal with it since I've never heard any pickup artists talk about facebook.

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Generally, I don't think it would matter. It doesn't matter at all to me. When my (now boyfriend) first started gaming me, I would talk about facebook and he was like "I don't have it" and it didn't bother me in the slightest.
It only would if she was extremely superficial. Seriously, now my boyfriend does have facebook but he NEVER ever goes on it as he would prefer to see people in real life as opposed to the cyber world. His status says he is in a relationship with me but that is absolutely the only amount of contact we have on facebook with each other, apart from me having photos of him up on my page.
Maybe just something like what my boyfriend truly believes - he isn't really bothered about having people on facebook because he would prefer to see them in real life - say you like the whole social side of it as opposed to the cyber world. Or something like you don't just want a whole bunch of acquantainces on facebook - you only want your actual friends on there. Because, to be honest, the majority of people would hardly speak to a LOT of the people on their facebook contact lists - a lot of people on there are friends of friends or people trying to get to know other people or even club promotors and stuff like that. Also, you will probably even know people from primary school/high school who you don't even speak to anymore but who have facebook and for some reason add you as friends.

Anyways I hope this has helped you a little. Just remember, there are nice girls out there who are not superficial and (like me) would not give a shit whether you have facebook, myspace, twitter or whatever the latest craze be.

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Having a facebook may just prevent you from getting facebook closes. That's it, though. If you don't have one, so long as you don't think it's a big deal, she won't think it's a big deal.

On the other hand, it would be easier to just get one and then work up a ton of friends. Go out, get a good social circle. That's how you do it.

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Hey,
here's another girls perspective:
basically it's all about conviction and confidence

If you're insecure about facebook, don't bring it up.

Make clear to yourself, why you don't have facebook?
Is it because your scared no one will add you anyway?
Is it because you don't like it? Or simply don't need it.

You have to know inside, that it's ok to not have facebook, so you don't act insecure when you're asked.

If a girl wants to add you on facebook, that's great!
If she's irritated that you don't have facebook, that doesn't mean there is something wrong with you.
Think of it this way: she's confused, maybe disappointed.
It might even make you mysterious, not to have facebook.
And it definately makes you less available.

And if she really cares alot about facebook, that might even be a good point to tease her.

Remember: whatever you say if she asks you why you don't have FB, it's not what you say, it's how you say it.

Would it be better to say "I don't have a facebook anymore" instead of "I don't have a facebook"? And give a reason like I never used it and I was never really into it because I communicated with my friends mainly through texting and email and the rest of the people on my list were people that I added and never talked to again, so it was pretty pointless for me.

If I tell her I that I don't have a facebook (and I don't say I used to have it), what do you think I should say in order to make me look good? I'd be interested in getting a girl's perspective on this.

whatever you do, don't go babbling tons of excuses and telling her a lot of boring stuff! If she asks you about facebook it's really a simple question, where you should give a simple reply, not tell her tons of crap about your life!

Now despite all these games, I believe you should be authentic if possible. Just be yourself, you don't need to lie.

If it is true, that you used to have FB then that's good.
The "not any more" will make her ask: why?

Or if you like say
NO - I HATE Facebook
Or
Nah, Facebooks lame
OR annoying

those are also things that might make you interesting or make her ask stuff.

whatever works for you.

Just don't make it a big issue and it won't be.

You guys gave some great advice. I've chosen to just admit that I don't have a facebook. You made a very good point about not looking insecure and just coming up with a simple answer. So I'm thinking of saying this in a conversation:
"do you have facebook"
"no, i don't have facebook"
"why?"
"because if i got one, i'd never use it"
"why not?"
"anyone i need to talk to i either text, call, talk to on aim, or talk to them through email. also, 99% of the people i add on facebook, i will just add them and never talk to them again. so if i get a facebook, i'll never use it."

Does that sound good? I made sure to give very short simple answers at first, but then in the end, I needed to come up with a more detailed answer because it's kind of hard to give a really short simple answer for that one.

I think thats good It totally sums up the reason why you don't want facebook. What can she say to that other than "oh ok fair enoguh"

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