From a recent rejection, here is what I've learned (and should have applied). I'm a confident guy, I just think I'm mis-directing my efforts.

I need to STOP focusing on logic and ONLY focus on getting girls to feel what I want them to feel...attraction to me. I'm sick of chasing them, and I want them chasing me...from this forum and other examples, I know its possible.

So being the problem-solving male that I am, I need to ingrain some principles of attraction for my next encounters - I'm sick of screwing up.

Here are some principles I've thought of, but need expounded for me.

Somehow make yourself the prize, not her. (how do we generally do this in a classy way?)
Don't call/text/communicate too much in the beginning.
If you are afraid of losing her, you probably will.
How to maintain attraction after a first date (I'm usually good until then)
Make her think about me, rather than the other way around.

Pump me up and throw me some good ideas to immediately implement! I appreciate it.