Hey there. I'm having some issues with a bartender I've taken interest in recently. This one is fairly difficult because she's older than I am, I'm guessing late thirties. While I'm 22. I've become at regular at this Korean bar here in San Francisco and there is this attractive middle aged Chinese woman that works there. She's single, but she works a good amount and really only has one day off during the week, Sunday which she really likes to use for her own, private relaxing time.

It's been a couple of weeks almost and in the time span I think I've become a regular at the bar. I've probably seen her a total of five times. The first night me and my buddy went there and on a random Tuesday got fairly drunk and ended up going to Karaoke with her and the female manager of the bar after closing hours. Nothing really happened that night, but me and the woman I've had an interest in got pretty close at point on the way to the Karaoke facility. Mostly touching. Keep in mind we were both fairly drunk.

So in the few times I've gone back to the bar we've gotten fairly friendly with each other. The bar she works at is a small dive bar which seems to be a refuge for old guys around the age of 50 to 60 try to stroll in, get drunk, and think they can get lucky. It's pretty funny seeing all of the female bartenders swindle these men out of their money. I've pretty much made good relations with all of the bartenders that work there. And the one I've taken an interest in has really hooked me up with several discounts and hasn't really tried to pull a fast one on me. Perhaps it's because I'm younger and friendly. I also don't get drunk to the point where I make a fool out of myself or hit on her constantly.

So I've kept things fairly smooth with her. And I think she's taken a little liking to me and trusts me a little more than the average customer. Actually a few nights ago we were fairly buzzed and by closing time before I left she give me a kiss on the lips. Wasn't a french kiss, but it was on the lips. We also seem to have a good kino/touch thing going on. I'll play with her hand sometimes when we're sitting at the bar and she's not busy and she'll respond...when she's not busy. The last time I saw her I tried to ask her if she wanted to chill after her work shift, but she said she was really tired and whatever. I think there is a part of her that isn't going to let this get to the point where she'd be put in a position to be taken back to my place or vice versa. I'm not sure. But well, that is what I'm here asking advice for. Any suggestions as to how seal the deal? Thanks.