So, there is this college girl who I used to have classes with, but I never really talked to. So I did a little bit of facebook gaming to initiate some contact, and it worked - moved to facebook chat, then her calling me (I was like wtf, we never exchanged numbers, and she took my number from facebook, apparently; not really an IOI though, it was quite study-related), texting, SPAM etc. A few weeks ago, I told her I have a free ticket to the zoo, and asked her if she's interested. To my surprise she was, and she seemed really keen about it (eg. she seemed disappointed and sad when we had to reschedule because of bad weather).

So we went to zoo last Monday. In general I'd say it went good, she seemed to have a lot of fun, we were laughing, etc. What didn't go that well was the journey to and from the zoo, when there were a few moments of awkward silence - but it wasn't that terrible. Also, I wasn't really using that many of the PUA stuff, but I am an amateur really, and the last time I spent more than 2 hours with an attractive girl was probably never.

The problem is, after Monday, it seems she is really avoiding me. She doesn't go on SPAM that often, and when she does she's either not talkative at all or just says that her internet is acting funny and signs off. Texting her doesn't work either. I'm not trying to be too pushy this time, as I know from experience that it doesn't work.

So, what do you guys think? The date may have not been perfect, but I didn't really do anything that bad to cause her to behave like this. Any tips?

same boat with you bro....
there are lot's of reasons she would avoid you..she lost interest or maybe she was disappointed, who know?
what you should try to do is talk to her and go out on a day 3. and do it fast becasue it's been 4 days already.


good luck and i hope she answers...(she didn't for me )

try get a day 3 and you'll know soon enough whether youve blown it. Did you kiss her on day 2?

Just as a side note regarding the awkward silence....this is normally because you are too much in your head. I find when this happens (not so often any more as I have plenty to talk about and share, and you should too)...but if you feel an awkward silence, completely relax yourself and look around as if youre in your own world thinking about your own shit. If she sees that you are generally relaxed this will relax her too, however if she can see that you are stuck for words, it will be extremely awkward. When Im driving in a car and the girl is in the passenger seat, if things go quiet i relax and put a little smile (not too obvious though) and look around as if Im just enjoying my surroundings and not really looking for anything to say. If you can get to a point where you are having un-awkward silences with the girl, this will build comfort/trust like you wont believe. (as youve probably noticed it is very easy to have un-awkward (comfortable) silences with someone you know very well and click with. That is the point you want to get to as quickly as you can.

It's actually been 11 days, i meant Monday 2 weeks ago. No, I did not try kissing her.

I kind of tried arranging Day 3 a few days ago, but again, she didn't reply to my text. Doesn't really sound too promising, does it? Admittedly, she is pretty busy right now and so am I (writing final thesis), but come on, it's not that hard to reply to a text?

I really wanted to get a day 3 before next Friday, when there is a big University Ball and I was hoping to take her as my date, but I suppose that's gonna be a bit difficult now.

I suppose it would be better to call her, but I seem to have a problem with talking on the phone (as stupid as it sounds, I find the sound quality not good enough to talk... Stupid, I know).

The big problem here is that it didnt end well by the sounds of it. When she got back to her place and reflected back on the date, she probably thought of a few good moments, however inevitably also reflected on the awkward trip home which left her with a bad impression. Ever heard the saying 'All's well that ends well?'. Applies here.
How do you mean texting her doesnt work? You need to take responsibility here and realize that its probably the content of your text msg that doesnt work. Give me an example of the text msg's you send her in order to take her out on a date. The flip side to it is that you blew it so bad on the date that even a well thought out enticing text msg to her wont get her to respond. ie. she's kinda hit that point of no return and there is very little hope going back (unless you waited a while and re-initiate on a clean slate.
Once again, you cant say you didnt do anything that bad, what do you mean by bad? Good and bad, when on a date, is defined by how she responds and the attraction and comfort you build with her. If you pulled her hair on the date and she responds favorably, well then that was a good thing, not bad. You need to change what you see 'bad' to be. It sounds like you could benefit from reading some basics on creating attraction (teasing her, sharing interesting stories which show youre an interesting, independent and adventurous guy. Not displaying signs of needyness, not being too nice and agreeing with every word that comes out of her mouth etc etc.

There is however something really positive that came from your story, and that is you got out there and got some experience on a date!

As conclusion, if she hasnt responded to your txt msg's and afetr everything I have read in your post, I would move on and work some other girl, and then try re-initiate communication with her in about 3 to 4 weeks.
Yes youre right, writing exams is no excuse, ever! If a girl is that into you, she will make time for you, always.
Mate this is very strange, the UK mobile networks are fine (unless you have a hearing disorder), I'm not being a dick here but are you sure this is not just another excuse? If this is really the case, get a better phone, if that doesnt work, change over to another mobile network! I doubt this is the case though as millions of other subscribers can communicate on all UK mobile networks just fine (else they wouldnt be in business).

Busy or not, a girl who is interested will at the least find a way to communicate with you. Not returning a text because of being busy is a big IOD.

I will say this primarily as a warning for your future dates with beautiful women.

The way you set up the date, the way the date played out, and the way it was executed was not BAD... it was just boring.
unfortunately, I think boring is actually worse than "bad".

Right now, you would be in a very difficult level of damage control.

Once you dropped her off, i'm sure she looked back on the day/evening with a few smiles and a few good memories. However, what it sounded like from your post, you lacked the material, and the conversation skills to really engulf her, and overwhelm her with an OUT OF THE BOX, crazy, fun experience. And thats what it takes right off the bat to build the attraction. otherwise you have demonstrated lower value.

I really actually like the idea of going to the zoo. Here are some things that you can do to make an experience like that better next time

// Use as much humor as possible, in this case, make jokes about the animals, poke fun at the penguins, etc..
// Tease your target for anything you can think of.
// Talk to the animals, roughtalk them if you must.
// Walk in front of her and always keep the body language of an alpha male.

The bottom line is.. be more spontaneous. the zoo is a great gift and a date place, you have so much built in material to work with. keep it weird or she will remember the boring.

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