alright, ive known this chick for two years and recently hooked up with her for the first time. before we hooked up though she said she didnt want a fling which i was cool with because i actually like her. the whole night we had a passionate make out thing goin on and we were gonna go fuck after swimming but we got kicked out.

Basically when ive tried to hanging with her again she has acted like nothin happened by saying oh i'm busy and such, and is reluctant to hang again. the last time i spoke to her she gave the excuse that she had work all week end. i said yea... i think i get it

and i havent talked to her since. its been a couple days and I still like her.

My friend told me to actually call her, and say something along the lines of

"Listen we're we serious the other night, because I met someone else last night and I wanna make the right choice" and proceed with that because he thinks i should just get her jealous and make her mind run? something like that.

If this isnt like completely rightwhat should i do? I'm completely new to PUA and my buddy hooked me up with this site on his account. any other questions about the situation that you guys need will be answered very quickly.

Hey mate,

Interesting situation. It's crunch time for you and I would suggest that every time you get close to a girl, you pull away. What I mean by this, is you become less and less available and harder to get.

Because what most guys do is they chase in this situation and therefore hand over all the power. Remember, women make decisions with emotions not with their head, so get her FEELING like she did last time and she will be making out with you once again.

But she probably thinks that if she does so again, you are going to push for sex. So here's a little trick I use that will lead to a decade of great sex with this girl.

When sex seems to be becoming a probability, pull away and say you want to wait to have sex...

BOOM!

They go nuts for this, because it's EXACTLY how she would have played it. Every time I have done this myself, it has lead to a relationship. I have even gone as far to hold back on the sex for up to a month, so to make sure it ticks the 'i can trust this guy' box in her head.

You best bet is to act just like her, and act as if nothing happened. Sometimes emotions will yo-yo and you will go back to square one, but you just start again and build up, only to find out its easier to get her back in that state as you have done it before.

By saying "Is there anything going on between us" you could probably freak her out as you may seem clingy or something in which case she will immediately respond with no because she could go and get another guy tonight if she wanted. You don't want to be deemed as replaceable.

Hope that helps!

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You waited two years to hook up with her. Is it because she didn't think highly of you or is it because you didn't think highly of her? It's one or the other. Figure this out first.

Dangling the "I found another girl lie" to her face after two years of sitting on your ass is probably the wrong move either way.

Did you actually say "Yeah, I think I get it." when she said she was busy?

Agreed.

To her it was just a "fling" or a one night thing. Don't get attached. You need to build up on your pickup skills or experience a little bit first before you can get into advanced stuff like this.

Your best bet for now is to talk about attractive things that you do along with general topics. After a while, she will probably be comfortable enough to see you again.

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