Hey Forum,

So this post is going to rile up quite of few of you bringing on some very direct opinions. . . but its one step closer. . .hopefully!

So Im 23. . . graduated from the university. . . good looking. I got into the game about a year ago. . . when i picked up the book "the game" - Neil strauss. . .actually given to me by a friend.

But here is my issue. . . or difficulty! I am coming out of a 5 year relationship! Agggghhh. . . and not to make matters worse im still kind of attached. It was rocky and still kind of is for the last few years. . . but just havent been able to move forward.

I know what youre thinking. . . you dont need this forum. . . you need a relationship counselor lol . . . maybe!

So back in highschool I was pretty active with the girls and I believe I had game. . . now I was not getting 8s or 9s maybe not even 7s but i was ok. - slim pickins here : )

Im trying to move forward. . . I mean I need the tools. . . I have a couple openers, no stories, or routines, or anything else. Im pretty confident . . . i think i dont really get approach anxiety. . . just dont really know what to do from there.

Im the type of guy that needs everything broken down into steps: be told what to do and say and then see it all together. - so i can model it!

If anybody knows a good video or even a field report that is common to most pick up game whether it be day or night! - prefer night because i love dancing and usually go out to bars and clubs if i do go out. . . please send it to me!

Nice to meet you all and thanks for any and all advice
topknotchmc

My personal opinion is that pick up is an art. Every social interaction is an interaction of it's own. You'll never paint the same painting twice, that kind of shit.

add to that an interaction is abstract, it can go well, it can go bad.

How do you deal with all that?


Start loving yourself. unconditionally, if that means being an egomaniac, so be it.
That said you should take into account that everything you do with a girl should be win/win. You are afterall, on the same team.

where to start?

Out in the field, start talking to people. Just talking, have fun. That is your primary objective. If you had a great time talking to a person, then that's a win. Get a make out to happen, collect the number, call her and set up a date.

It's simple as that.

Kick the shit, don't take it all too seriously with all the poo ah terms and shit. It's not neccesary and it usually over complicates things. You will get confused.

As for lines, routines and gambits, they can be great in some situations. But it's not a requirement. I don't deal with anything that's verbal. I'm all about actions. Kino, escalation, body language. Because those usually are the factors that make stuff happen, what you say is irrelevant.

I like talking about stupid shit like squirrels while touching their bums, just to tell them i'm a very shy guy.


hopefully you get what I mean.

if you are sort of attached or feeling needy feelings towards the person from your last relationship you shouldn't rush into a new one.
i think you should work on your inner game....

you have the art of picking up girls and you have the art of just being yourself .... i think you should be yourself and second how to pickup chicks.

anyway.... you just need to go out .... im not claiming im a pickup guru but i am lethal at picking up chicks - however i didn't go out lately and last time i was going out was like 4 weeks ago.
Social skills are muscles you need to train , if you don't train them they shrink ... no matter how much pickup theory you learn- you need to go out in order to be succesfull ... there is no easy way .. there are no shortcuts ...

going through the grind everyday in order accomplish my goal no matter how hard it is ... THIS ... IS ... SPARTA!

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBzJJuur6uE[/youtube]

now don't do phalanxes in the club .... the bouncer will throw you out

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