My friend had a party tonight, and he was the AMOG of the party. My girlfriend was hooking up with me a lot but my friend was really good at flirting with her. What do I do to feel better?

i dont think your friends should be hitting on your girl. was he hooking up with her, maybe she is just being social as long as she comes home with you dont worry. if she will flirt with other guys when with you then you should cut her loose.

Bravo!

Seriously, a girlfriend - and I want to reiterate, girlfriend - that chooses to flirt with another guy, in front of you, is just someone with an illogical attachment who's sole purpose is to take you for all you're worth.

A couple things:
If he's your friend or buddy or whatever, and he's hitting on your girl (Now there is a fine line/gray area that splits what is flirting and what is being social. Make sure you're not confusing the two.), then in all reality, he's not your buddy.

Trying to get YOUR girls = Not a friend.

Second:
If your girl is flirting with him back (once again, is it social or actual flirting/hooking up?), then it's time to move on. Dump her before she has a chance to break your heart.

The last thing I want to mention:
Instead of sitting back watching this happen, go talk to OTHER girls. If she can flirt, why can't you? It'll be a good opportunity to practice approach and opening, that way if something does happen, you'll be ready to go find a new girl.

(p.s. If she tries to get in an argument about you 'flirting' with other girls, bring up that she is flirting with your buddy. Chances are she'll deny it and say it's just social. That's when you tell her that you were just being social as well."

Hope all works out for you!

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Above two posters are right.

As to "how do I feel better"... Well, one option is to cry yourself to sleep, then get milk and cookies as a midnight snack and sleep late in the morning.

Or, you could become a PUA and fix your inner game.

Right now, you sound kind of down on yourself. You're having jealousy issues which may just be paranoia, and from your other post, it sounds like your girlfriend isn't so good for you.

If you want to feel better, you can embark on the long journey to becoming a PUA. There are tons of resources at your finger tips: great articles, free ebooks, and awesome videos that will get you well on your way.

A misconception people often have is that we're only here to learn how to pick up women.

We're here to fix our lives. PUArtistry is just one way to do that. The community is open to those who need help. Sounds like you need it. If you want it, we're here.

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Don't hate, just dominate.

So the guy's problem is that he isn't good enough with his girl yet to maintain her attention and you guys want to blame that on the girl and say that because she is having a good time with another guy who is apparently a cool guy, he should dump her? I disagree.

Your issue is not the girl, it is you. It sucks, but you need to learn how to be more of a man. Luckily you have found this forum and that's what it is here for. Don't blame your issues on the other guys, the girls, their behavior or anything else, realise that you are the one in control of your actions and your outcomes. Take control of your relationship by taking control of your own actions and becoming the man that your woman craves.

Instead of rejecting the other guy and being angry at him you guys need to learn from what they are doing right and try to be more like them, while still being who you are. Don't copy them, but see what they do and do similar kinds of things in order to receive the same SPAM they do. If they are being flirted with a lot then they are doing something right and you should learn what that is.

Also, recognize that just as you flirt with people who you encounter in your day and even the other cute girls at parties while your gf is there, so will your girls flirt. We're human beings and it's what we do. It's not a crime, but treating someone badly because of it will make them resent you and ruin a lot of relationships before you realise what you're doing wrong unless you work at stopping it before it gets to that point.

As far as your LMR issue in your other thread, perhaps your issues are related. Perhaps you aren't treating your girl the way she needs to be treated and so she doesn't feel safe at being that vulnerable with you. These are both symptoms of less than ideal dynamic in your relationship and that is a result of your behaviors and beliefs. Time for some inner game work. Good luck!

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Agreed with Rye Lee on most points, though on the whole breakup idea, then it depends on whether or not she is actually flirting with other guys.

If she is, I would suggest breaking up with her.

If she isn't, don't.

Make sure that your claims are valid and not paranoia. Or, maybe you should get rid of her either way because you're not ready for her. The truth comes out in the end.

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Don't hate, just dominate.

If he breaks up with her, then doesn't that show her that he doesn't need her? And when you show that you don't need her, she wants you even more? Not only will she want you more, but won't she also take a look at herself and ask why he's leaving (basically a form of neg)?

Just some question's to think about here.

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"Chances are you're tired of being a 'nice-guy' while every chick on the planet walks all over you, spends your money, shatters your ego, and then leaves you with nothing but humiliation, depression, and a big bottle of Jergen's hand cream."

P.S.

Dude (who claims is your buddy) hitting on your girl = Not a friend (Still).

It's a rule of winging as well as normal everyday life; DO NOT go after your buddies target, but instead help him achieve it.

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"Chances are you're tired of being a 'nice-guy' while every chick on the planet walks all over you, spends your money, shatters your ego, and then leaves you with nothing but humiliation, depression, and a big bottle of Jergen's hand cream."