I have a situation where I am not certain whether the HB is uninterested, or whether she is used to hot pursuit and won't make an investment into our interactions on that basis.

I met HB9.5 at an open mic night, opening with a direct "I would like to meet you" type approach. Called several days after and had a good conversation, then met for date 1 a couple days after that. Date 1 went well, after cycling around the park on a tandem she suggested going for tea - I took her to a tapas place instead. I had tickets to an improv show the next night, so she joined me for that - I told her I'd buy her margeritas if she helped me move half a dozen boxes into my new place (getting her familiar plus I live in a trendy place in the trendiest neighborhood of the city = proof). We did that then went for a walk at night along the seawall.

The conversation was very natural the whole time, I flipped the majority of the attraction switches and we shared a lot of common interest. I did fail to SOI her for any of her personality traits or verbally indicate I was interested in something other than her beauty (I am into her personality). I am just afraid of scaring HB's off for indicating this too early!

Nonetheless, I would rate up to date 2 as excellent. I thought she was totally falling for me. She'd amped the kino quite a bit and made a couple statements about how it felt good to be close to somebody again etc.

For the next week we spoke / texted, but her enthusiasm was declining. As she distanced I mirrored her, now we haven't had contact for a couple days.

My gut says she's not interested, as I act the same way! However, is she simply interested in more pursuit, or afraid I just want her body?

I'm torn between axing her from FB and deleting her # or sending her a message.

This, admittedly, doesn't sound like oneitis.

So, there is the possibility that you could send one last message. Why the hell not? Your ego doesn't depend on this, and your inner game seems good enough that you could pull her.

Perhaps she's upset because you didn't attempt a sort of close earlier? If you manage to get another date, go for an f-close, or at least as close as possible.

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Oneitis? I was dating 3 other girls at the time, picked up another in a club a couple nights after. Though, I get bored of the average girl I date in a couple weeks. This one had potential - but I can pickup another. I've made such strides in the last month its crazy.

I was thinking of a last FB message. Not certain how to spin it, I've considered many elements that could go in that message:

-acknowledging some aspects of her personality I liked. Maybe not stating them to leave it intriguing.
-stating I've dated a dozen in the last few months and she was my favorite for some specific reason
-reminding her of some positive future projections I made
-deciding whether I can be AFC because I've shown strong inner game & value so far. eep, that would tip the power balance a bit!
-acknowledging she has plenty of options and no hard feelings if shes dating someone else. Like I said I can pickup another but a pivot would rock.
-stating I can see she isn't too enthusiastic, demonstrating some social calibration

I think I like the first 3, not sure if I like 2 to boost my own ego or to demonstrate I have options too and its not a big deal.

AFC royal is right, she amped the kino hoping you'd do some kind of close and u didnt.
Just ask her to do one last thing and make the d&mn move. Even just ask if she wants to come ova to watch a movie possibly w/drinks. If u can get her over watching movies is an easy place to escalate and make your move.

I didnt escalate because I thought she worked slow... our first date she kissed me on the cheeks and when I verbalized a KC she said not yet. Date 2 I walked her home and she kissed me, but instead of escalating I said goodnight. Like I said she had

I certainly don't understand this aspect of p/u. If she wanted me to close, why would she not be eager to see me again after I didn't? Is it so easy to find another guy and she wants to find someone who will escalate hard?

Is it as simple as escalating the max and shrugging it off when she says no?

Oh my lord buddy!!! Don't talk! KISS HER! Kiss her as soon as possible. Don't give her a chance to think about it. If you try and she says no. Wait a few minutes and try again. Yep that's right a few minutes! If she gets mad tell her she is so damn sexy and you can't help yourself. Seriously man you're gonna end up in the friend zone for lack of escalation.

You're afraid she thinks you just want her body??? LOL! Tell her hell yes that is exactly what you want and more! Trust me she won't get mad. It will actually be a turn on. Think animal within! Don't be ashamed of your desire to have her and let her know about it! I could write hundreds more paragraphs about this but I won't. Just don't be afraid to show what you want from her.

In my experience when you first start dating a chick. It's better to be a little over the top aggressive. It can be a fine line but it's better than the friend zone because you didn't escalate fast enough. Get in the frame of mind that she is just too damn sexy and you are having trouble controlling yourself.