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PostPosted: Sun Jun 06, 2010 8:15 pm 
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Okay, so one of my best friend his girlfriend says she's attracted to me (A LOT), she said I have a lot of sex appeal and she basically said she wanted to go all the way with me. Now obviously I'm not going to (and I told her this) as I'd like to stay friends with my male friend. She even said "What if, in theory, I wasn't with him?"

But what am I to do? It's his girlfriend, I'm bound to run into her again so I can't just delete her contact info and move on.

I've thought about having really crappy body language when I'm around her and stuff, but I don't think that's enough :? Any advice?

I don't want to treat her like crap, because my friend might start hating me for treating his girlfriend like crap.

Also, should I tell him?





(Who knew learning pickup had disadvantages!)

p.s. I did NOT run any game on her! I was just being social... you know... fun and playful....

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'fun and playful' isn't considered game? Anyway...if you really want her to not like you, you could lower your value. Pick your nose in front of her, burb in her face, whatever be original. Just do some major turnoff things, I'd say.
If she's still coming onto you, just tell your friend. If she won't cheat on him with you, she'll probably do it with some other guy. Let your friend keep his own value and let him dump that bitch before she cheats on him. It's all up to you...

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Why bother lowering your value? Natural gaming doesn't turn off, you can't help it.

Just don't respond to her. It sucks, because she will want you so bad... but this is where true friends shine.

If you're careful, you can probably scrape through this. Best of luck.

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you think about telling your buddy about this?

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How about just being plain honest, tell her you value your relationship with your mate more than you value a quick fuck.

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It's a really tough situation to be in, and it really calls to your ethics - which do you value more, sex or friendship?

I'm assuming you are familiar with the 'friend zone' - it seems to come when we don't want it. We become friends with someone we want to fuck, or date, or even just kiss, and it blocks us and prevents us from doing just that. If only the friend zone could come between you and a forbidden fruit, to do you a favour...

Put yourself in the friend zone with this girl. It seems like a plausible option. Don't stop talking to her, and don't lower your value or your qualities to make her not like you. Make her like you in a different way - as a friend. Talk to her lots. Try not to touch on sex too much. Eventually she will clue in. And once she realizes she could probably have you, she will lose a lot of interest.

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Sharplin has the best advice for this. great insight, and different perspective than i

was going to suggest, but that his friend zone idea is golden in my view[/quote]


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'fun and playful' isn't considered game? Anyway...if you really want her to not like you, you could lower your value. Pick your nose in front of her, burb in her face, whatever be original. Just do some major turnoff things, I'd say.
If she's still coming onto you, just tell your friend. If she won't cheat on him with you, she'll probably do it with some other guy. Let your friend keep his own value and let him dump that bitch before she cheats on him. It's all up to you...
I guess being in the game for so long it's just become second nature and doesn't even feel like game anymore :?
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How about just being plain honest, tell her you value your relationship with your mate more than you value a quick fuck.
Yeah, I did... but you can't change feelings with logic. You can only surpress them.
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you think about telling your buddy about this?
On one hand I think honesty is best, but in this particular situation I'd rather not. I just want to see him happy, you know. What if someone told you in your face that your girlfriend wants to fuck him? I'd be pissed off. I figured I'd just let this pass and they could live some happy moments together.
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It's a really tough situation to be in, and it really calls to your ethics - which do you value more, sex or friendship?

I'm assuming you are familiar with the 'friend zone' - it seems to come when we don't want it. We become friends with someone we want to fuck, or date, or even just kiss, and it blocks us and prevents us from doing just that. If only the friend zone could come between you and a forbidden fruit, to do you a favour...

Put yourself in the friend zone with this girl. It seems like a plausible option. Don't stop talking to her, and don't lower your value or your qualities to make her not like you. Make her like you in a different way - as a friend. Talk to her lots. Try not to touch on sex too much. Eventually she will clue in. And once she realizes she could probably have you, she will lose a lot of interest.

Good luck, man. Do what you think is right.
This is the advice I've been looking for, will definately try that! I've already decided what I had to do, I just didn't know how to (until now). Thanks.

Oh, and I definately value friendship more, plenty of lays in the sea. ;)

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On one hand I think honesty is best, but in this particular situation I'd rather not. I just want to see him happy, you know. What if someone told you in your face that your girlfriend wants to fuck him? I'd be pissed off. I figured I'd just let this pass and they could live some happy moments together.
Would you rather know this before or after your girlfriend tries and cheats on you with your friend? Because you can bet your ass your friend's girlfriend will try and make a move for you to get you in bed and sleep with you. Your friend may be pissed but if he is a real friend he will appreciate you telling him and that you did not act on his girlfriend wanting you. Look at things this way, if you don't spill the beans now you are only going to be asking for drama later on and your friend's girlfriend will more than likely break up with him just so she can be with you or at least sleep with you.


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On one hand I think honesty is best, but in this particular situation I'd rather not. I just want to see him happy, you know. What if someone told you in your face that your girlfriend wants to fuck him? I'd be pissed off. I figured I'd just let this pass and they could live some happy moments together.
Would you rather know this before or after your girlfriend tries and cheats on you with your friend? Because you can bet your ass your friend's girlfriend will try and make a move for you to get you in bed and sleep with you. Your friend may be pissed but if he is a real friend he will appreciate you telling him and that you did not act on his girlfriend wanting you. Look at things this way, if you don't spill the beans now you are only going to be asking for drama later on and your friend's girlfriend will more than likely break up with him just so she can be with you or at least sleep with you.
I suppose you make a good point.... the only thing that's holding me back from doing this is that I'm going to not only be the bearer of bad news, but I'll be the one that breaks them apart. I just can't get the idea out of my head that he'll anchor all those bad feelings with me.

You know when you're so in love with someone, and you find out she's just another cheating ho? I'm expecting him to project all those bad feelings towards me.

This is why I'm thinking about doing absolutely nothing and just let it pass.

"He's 20 years old, he's not going to marry the girl, let him have a good time." That's my mindset at the moment.

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Best thing you can say to her is
"im sorry but im not into girls with fat ankles"
why ? you just insulted her , its a strange insult so she will actually think your being serious ..........she deserves the insult for trying to come between you and your friend

I wouldnt tell your friend unless she actually tried something with you .


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Best thing you can say to her is
"im sorry but im not into girls with fat ankles"
why ? you just insulted her , its a strange insult so she will actually think your being serious ..........she deserves the insult for trying to come between you and your friend

I wouldnt tell your friend unless she actually tried something with you .
lol ey?

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Fuck it, I'm telling him. I figure he might get mad at me for a while, but eventually he'll realize that I'm a true friend for not banging his chick and telling him about her slutty behavior.

Thanks for the advice all, thread can be closed. :)

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if your anchors those bad emotions to you just collapse his anchor another wonderful benefit of learning game


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if your anchors those bad emotions to you just collapse his anchor another wonderful benefit of learning game
I never really got into the whole speed seduction thing, how do you destroy an anchor?

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