Okay lot's of people ask how to have the right mindset for a party, or how to get in the zone.

As many pua's said: "You are going to a party to have fun, the party itself should get you in the zone".

True but we aren't here for no reason. Of course that is the correct mindset but especially beginning pua's might have difficulty really having that to work. If you look up to it: this won't work.

For me I'm convy for parties now esp. if they are at home or beaches. Places that aren't too loud.


Anyway...
What I tried yesterday was awesome. I was in a good mood but this got me in an awesome mood! If you are in a bad mood this should make you at least good too. And you will shine, emit positive energies. *hehe*.

Just RIGHT before the party tell yourself all the AWESOME things you did. DHV yourself. Think of the girls you did, how they liked it, how many want you back etc.
Tell yourself about the awesome job you have and that while there is economic crisis. Luck? No you got it!
Tell yourself about all the competitions where you ended up high.
About all the sports achievements you've had.
About your moments of fame.
About the great friends you have and when the really appreciated you.

If you miss these.. Get them. Do stuff and be proud. You will radiate that and people will feel more attracted.


If you talk about it, it kinda sounds like "yeah DUH captain obvious.." but I wonder how many people actually do this stuff. I did it yesterday and I had a GREAT night. My game was very much on. Loved it, nr closes and a k-close (but she appeared to young for my likings grrr...)


Have fun and lemme know what you think!

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Hi, I need your female opinion on this...

DHV probably isn't the right term here.

Getting in state? Yes, that is what you are talking about, and yes, I do it. It works wonders.

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Don't hate, just dominate.

Yeah was already in doubt with myself on that. But let's say... mention things to yourself where you had very positive experiences. Moments and facts that makes you proud of yourself.

Works miracles.

Whether the party is gonna be AWESOME or whether you look up to it... you will always radiate a more positive awesome mindstate to others. So it's always good.

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Hi, I need your female opinion on this...

This works some of the time, but I don't think it has too much to do with actually boosting your confidence by telling yourself how successful, cool, good looking, talented, or fulfilled you are. There is a saying that applies to this situation: "It is easier said than done."

Almost every time when I go out to a party, on the way there I am always telling myself that the night will go fine, that I have had plenty of great nights, and that I have lots of good friends. I tell myself that I'm athletic and attractive, that I am a prize, that I have worth. But as soon as you get to a real social situation, all of this seems to go away. It's almost as if you are so convinced that you're special that you feel like it will come really easily when it doesn't.

I also find that thinking about this stuff makes you think about state and therefore whether or not you are in state. As a result, you think of what to say and you don't live in the moment. So, it really hinders me.

You guys have said this works for you, which shows that this does work for at least some people. I may be looking at this from the wrong perspective or approaching it the wrong way, but it usually doesn't work too well.

I can't say this has never helped me, because it certainly has - I am just saying that sometimes, occasionally, this hinders me more than it helps.

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