So I ended up going to the rippers last friday and I was actually approached by a number of strippers who offered me a dance. Naturally I was flattered but I really don't enjoy spending loads of cash on lap dances, I was wondering if anyone knew a good way to politely decline while increasing value.

Let me think about it... No?

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Ezo, be polite!

Say; 'No thank you, I'm flattered by your offer but I don't want a lap dance'

Why would you be flattered? I'm only flattered when a stripper spends time talking to me and DOESN'T ask for a lapdance. Otherwise, they are just doing their job.

As for turning them down, how would you turn down anything else?

"No, thanks."
"Not tonight, sorry."
"I can't tonight."

Basically just say no, but don't be a dick about it.

If a strippper is approaching you and asking to dance with you.

She is NOT thinking. "Wow what a hot guy, I want to dance for him"

She IS thinking. "This guy looks desperate, I could mkae some profit from him"

Lesson number 1 in how strippers make money.

Strippers are "Hired Guns", same as waitresses and bartenders. They are nice to you in the hopes that you will tip them more money....that's the only DHV that they are concerned about. They are selling a service, you are the customer. Once the business transaction is completed, they move on to the next customer. DHV doesn't even figure in to it.

That said, remember that they are people too, so be polite. Smile and say, "Thanks, but no thanks". If they are "all business", they'll move on. If they sit down next to you and chit-chat, go ahead and run game if you wish.

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If you're going to be cheap about it, stop going to strip clubs. Not spending money there is akin to not leaving a tip when you eat out.

And yes, I know the conventional wisdom in the community is that not paying for anything is the only way to break out of the "customer" frame and get a chance at going home with a stripper. I've also proven it's bullshit, as PMZ members who read my member journal already know.

Your boy,
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I don't know.... I used to go to a local strip club every few weekss with a buddy of mine when we were 21/22, and we were cheap bastards! Hardly ever sat at the stage, never bought lap dances or drinks, yet more often then not, we had at least 1 or two of the girls over at our table hanging out with us. Now we never brought them home or went any farther than haging at the club, so it's not like we got anywhere, but we sure as hell didn't have to pay them for thier company.

Now that I think about it, I wonder if I could have gotten anywhere...at the time, the thought didn't even occur to me to hit on the dancers, I figured they dealt with that everyday, and I didn't want to be like every other dirtbag in the place.

But as far as declining a lapdance, just say no thanks. They really don't care, just make it quick so they can move on to the next guy.

There was one time I was at one of the sleazier clubs, and before I knew what was happening, this chick was climbing into my lap..and she was naaasty. I told her I had just ran out of money...that got her off me REAL quick!!

I've been going to the club for a while now; basically, just be honest with them, and politely say "No thanks" or "Not right now, maybe later" or something.

If it's a girl that you're interested in however, then immediately change the subject without skipping a beat. You gotta keep them out of that "stripper" mindset, draw them out of their routine if you want to get anywhere with them and not feel like a customer in their eyes.

Not to b rude here, but who will feel flattered for a stripper to offer a lap dance for the cash? Is like feeling flattered cause a prostitute offer us sex for money. The do it for the $ using the desperation that the AFCs have to see meat.

IMO, no need to be polite there, actually im not, i do a DHV like "im so sorry, appreciate ur offer, but i dont pay for what other girls are willing to give me for free"

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