All my friends are getting laid/fingering girls/getting bj's. Even my ugly friends, like one of my best ones just lost it this weekend. My problem isn't so much of attracting women or even approaching. I can get over AA its just I get boring when I am nervous. My voice gets monotone and I ramble. I make friends with guys really easy because I am not nervous what so ever. But girls, that is totally different. I have talked to some girls, very awkwardly, and even asked 1 out. Some of my friends think I am possibly gay since I have been single and never talk to girls anymore. I can talk to ugly ones and I used to not care, then I hit puberty and started getting all nervous. I know my problem is that I care too much about what girls think and I have low self esteem. I am working on the self esteem but I am still boring around girls and find it hard to look them in the eye unless we make eye contact from far away. I have luck on my side though, I am cute, so I have heard, and I am musically talented. I hear girls dig guys who are good at guitar, which I am. Basically can you evaluate this whole situation and tell me how to get over what women think and not be so boring. Please don't tell me to do the noob mission because that isn't the problem, its the actual keeping attraction and talking, not approaching. Oh, and I guess being played has also made me more reluctant, this girl flirted with me SO hard, then I asked her to homecoming and she rejected me. She even seemed interested all the way up until I asked her out, then BAM! I don't like you like that.

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Do unto others as you would do unto them.

Indeed I agree this is your problem, good that you at least realize this.

Thats awesome that you dont have much of a problem with AA. If you see yourself as boring then you clearly seem to think you have a boring life. Is your life that boring??

To help you talk about yourself, sit down with pen and paper and write down some cool stories/memories that you would tell your close friends (read up on DHV storesi if you dont know what they are, but mainly they shold be stories from your life that you ENJOY telling which convey your personality and your past).

Then the other side of the coin is to be genuinely interested in what SHE has to say, if you develop this curious mindset you will be naturally inquisitive and threads of conversation will spawn naturally.

If you see yourself as a boring guy, you will be boring and have no chance mate. Dig deep and find the you that's interesting, confident, adventurous, flirty, cocky, smooth, charming, sexual. (you have experienced all of these at some point in your life, try and remember those times and recall how it feels).

It really is all in your head.