hello

i've approached a shitload of women. and i got their numbers, and i know some were in for a lay.
however, i was like cool i got this and basically i neglected them. and they know so, cuz im barely sending them texts anymore and they barely send me anything back. so basically the vibe is dieing.

however, how do i reignite the spark?
How do I get back where we were? I want some quick lays. just bootycalls.

I tried texting 1 really hot girl; "whatsup"
she did not respond

then i talked to another girl over msn messenger, she was studying for her exams, so i started talking about how sex relieves stress :p she was in for it I think, but then I tried to start another convo with her a few days later but she kinda ignored me. So i was like, well i hope your exams are going well and i left it like that.

I just dunno how to handle this well. Please help me out

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Failure was never an option


Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

Why! Let me ask you a serious question. If you wanted sex and you "felt" you had these girls on the line for sex, why the fuck didn't you do yourself and these girls a favor and close? Are you trying to punish yourself and be a pussy tease to these poor girls? Are you scared of sex or something? BAD. GAME.

Of course the vibe is dying, you think these girls are going to be hot for you for three days of no contact? Probably they got someone else to take care of them after you warmed them up! Chump move. Ugh! Now I'm mad! Start over and this time put out for fuck's sake.

P.S. "whatsup" is the most boring text humanly possible. Try "(Girl's name), what are you doing tonight?" That way it doesn't look like a mass text. If she bites and looks sort of free, invite her to your penis. -END-

You want to have sex for ego gradification, you are going after sex to make youself feel more like a man.

As a result you don't enjoy sex, you enjoy the fact that you are having sex.
Alot of times man use beeing with women, to make themself feel better.
All because you can get a women in bed doesn't prove that you're a man any more then if you can't.

One of the main things about beeing a man is integrity. And that is what actually helps you get many more women into your life.
Women have finely tuned bullshit detectors, because so much man give so much crap all the time, just in order to try and get them into bed.

If you can go out wiht a women and never expect or think about sex, a women will think your from mars and will be very attracted to you. Because she is used to go out with a guy, who clearly, one way or another is trying to get her into bed.

In other words, they clearly notice you have the wrong intentions.

If you go out with a women and you weren't trying, you weren't expecting. She is gonna tell her friends, 'wow i've met this nice guy and he didn't even try to have sex with me or if he wanted to'. She might even get insecure about it.
Why didn't he want to have sex with me?

And she will notice that the table is turned, you're having all the power.
Because women usualy think that they are the ones that are going to decide if they are going to have sex or not.

This is a whole different mindset, and that is what women are attracted to.

That is idiotic. If you aren't sexual, don't have sexual intentions, the girl will assume you're not sexually interested. And guess what? You won't have sex. Being sexual doesn't give the girl any power, it just lets her know you're interested and allows her to reciprocate. This is chump advice and exactly why nice guys finish last. This is the fast track to friend zone. You talk like someone who's never had a relationship with an adult woman; reeks of inexperience. You think a girl brags to her friends about how a guy was so nice and courteous he didn't lay a finger on her? Maybe you are from mars.

yeah well, i thought that if I would not reply to their msgs that they wanted to have sex that they would be more hot the next time. but instead they thought i was not interested i guess

then i did show them after a while that i was interested and thats what turned them off even more i reckon.

but what do i do know, i was supposed to go to some party with this girl tonight but i have not contacted her anymore and she didnt contact me either. she is 23, i am 21.

fucking hell, this shit is always happening to me! Girls say im too passive
though i try to "act busy" which is just bullshit, i dont really have a life.

fuck me! Even my fucking girlfriend left me for this ! She went fucking other guys! she put me in the friend zone

god damn it

EDIT:
I called that girl today btw, and she did not pick up the phone. Im gonna call her again.

EDIT #2:
I called, she picked up She thought I did not go anymore because she did not hear from me again
I kinda apologized for it, and said I was busy for my exams. and kinda forgot about it but that i LOVED to go.
now we are going tonight YES !
Im fucking excited ! I hope this chick is gonna be my gf
though, she is a bit strange She seems very sweet and fragile. she kinda seems scared I guess she is not sure what she is up to with me..
well
I need to reestablish more comfort and trust with her

damn it Feels good to actually accomplish something again after a shitload of failure.

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Failure was never an option


Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

Damn dude. I think I was as insecure and self-hating at your age. You have a lot of work to do. You're going to hear this a lot, but if you have so much time, you need to use it working on inner game, not worrying about pussy.

Just want to let you guys know that I kissed that girl tonight

and that the chemistry was not so good at first, she and her female friend were kinda ignoring me. then this other girl started talking to me and flirted with me. Then the other girls left, I went after her after I got the number from the girl that started flirting with me lol

Then I talked to her again, and I asked her what was wrong. She said she thought I was a player all of a sudden. I reestablished trust, comfort etc.

We had a good convo in on our way back home in the train. Then we needed to wait for her train and we fucking kissed

then she asked me if i was a player, i told her i was not sure lol. which kinda made her stress out.
I told her that I just wanted to be honest, and she said that I was kind of a cocky man because she inspected my facebook with a lot of "wrong" girls.. lol

On her way home she sent me text messages, indicating that she would want to have sex with me
lmao

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Failure was never an option


Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

You'll have to see my comment in this context.

There is a difference between giving a flirtuous/sexual vibe and wanting sex. If you can give a sexual vibe without you thinking about sex, she will be more attracted to you.

It's the same with LMR, when she give you LMR and she expects you to go 'aaaaaaaaw' but pleeeeeeeeeease. And gues what? no more sex for you.

But if you say, ok, and go check your email. She will jump you and will want sex with you.

I went out for lunch with this girl once, I was just chilling and having a nice time.
Then all of a sudden she says; 'You know, we are not going to have sex'
I genuinely was surprised about this and told her, ok, sure.
Then when we got the bill she said; 'I'm paying'
I said we should split it and there is no reason to pay for it all.
She said she wants to pay because she doesn't wanna give me any ideas.
Later when I dropped her at her appartment, she jumped me.
And we had wild sex.
Afterwards I asked her, Why, did you have sex with me, after making it so clear, that you were not going to have sex me.
She said it's because I didnt expect it to happen.

It's so obvious when you text a lame text as; 'Hey, what's up'. That you WANT something from her. Instead of ; Hey, let's go chill there or there' and then just accidentaly have wild sex.

I've never gotten into the friendzone with a girl I wanted to go to bed with. I'm always flirtuous & sexual and I never expect I'm going to have sex with one of these girls. Wich has always, given me sex with these girls.

Most of the time women say this for 2 reasons...

Its a test, they want to judge your reaction to see whether you are actually interested in them, or just interested in getting sex. If youre interested in just getting sex from her and nothing else then you'll probably end the night early and go home as you know you aint getting any. However, if youre 'into' her you'll stay out with her enjoying the evening without caring whether you get sex or not (note this is the way she perceives it).

The other reason they issue this remark is to take the pressure off themselves....basically managing your expectations so that she isnt pressurized to put out at the end of the night, and because youre not expecting it, if she wants it then she can 'initiate it' or give clear signs if she really wants to.

anyway when ever a girl tells me 'i hope you know we're not having sex tonight', i say 'ha are you kidding... kissing you would be like kissing my sister' and then immediately change the topic, it completely knocks them off track and all of a sudden SHE is the one pursuing you, and not just you trying to sex from her.

I think it's fine to expect sex, just don't be a retard about it. Obviously she's not a prostitute, so she doesn't owe you sex, so you shouldn't talk like it's a sure thing. You should still act sexual regardless. It's always a good thing if a girl says you're not going to have sex. If someone hits me with that, I just say something like, "Oh wow, where did that come from? So I was saying..." and more or less ignore that she said it. Third option is she says it because she's on the rag.