Last week I was hanging out in our student union (huge building with many couches/chairs, people come here to study, take naps, etc. etc.) and a girl sat on a couch across from me. This was before I had even began to read the 'rules' of the game....so this was all still from my 'AFC' ways, but long story short, I ended up making a comment about her hat, and we hit it off from there.

Monday I decided not to go to the same area at the same time, in case she was there too (I didn't want it to seem like I'm needy)...

So today I was there hanging out again, but I kind of forgot about her. Suddenly she walked by the same couch, saw me, smiled, took her sunglasses off and stood next to my chair as we talked.....when the person across from me got up, she went and sat down and we ended up talking for another 40 minutes

Here are some things I noticed:

1.She laughs a lot, and talks even more...she did most of the talking actually

2. I tried throwing in one subtle neg...she said she loved her bright green glasses, so I told her they're nice, but that she'd look cuter in red....I reached for her glasses and tried them on and asked "what do you think?" and she said "hmm ya that's a very good look for you"...

3. I teased her a little bit for being nerdy

Now, I'm still new to this whole talking to/attracting women thing....should I consider ALL of these IOIs? My main trouble is identifying if she sees me as a friend or potentially something more, and if not, making her attracted to me... I didn't do any kino, unless the glasses part counts...

I guess my problem is I just don't know how to escalate into attraction....I'm not sure if I'm just not confident enough yet, or don't have the experience....

The convo kind of started to die just around the time I needed to leave for another class...so as she was talking, I whipped out my phone, but held it in my hand because I didn't want to interrupt the story she was saying...she obviously saw me do this, and after she was done I said "well, I gtg....but here, put your number in my phone" and handed it to her....

So she put it in, and we both got up and started walking out of the building....problem was, we had already said "Goodbye" as we started to stand up.....(think Superbad moment)....it was really awkward, so I said something like "I'm going to such and such building blah blah blah" and she replied, but then whipped out her phone and put it to her here...at this point, I walked by another girl I knew and she was coming towards me, so I turned to acknowledge her, but when I turned around the girl I got the number from kept walking...AWKWARD....and total AFC stuff...I felt clingy even though I wasn't trying to be...

In hindsight I should have just taken a different route, or excused myself earlier...oh well, live and learn.

So after all of this, my questions are....

1. Was she showing IOIs?
2. I have her number but haven't even thought about texting her at all tonight....I think waiting until tomorrow night would be fine
3. Where can I learn more about triggering attraction in women....I think I have my hooks down pretty well...I got her to converse with me and get her number, but looking back on it, the conversation was too....friendly...even though I tried flirting a bit, I didn't really feel the same return from her...any suggestions?

Nice move with the glasses man and nice way to # close.

From the sound of it you were getting some IOIs. That glasses move was a good move. You complimented her properly by leaving room for improvement.

If you wanna go for a day 2 though try to always make sure you set up the date right then and there. even if you just say something like "yea i'll hit you up at xyz and we'll discuss details then". It's better than nothing

2. As far as texting her goes, don't do something lame like "Hey jennie, what's up? It's john from the building". Send her a text that will tie back to what you're originally talking about, like "hey, it was nice seeing you today, did you drop the red glasses for green yet?"

3. drop me a pm and we'll talk about this one.

Don't worry too much about your small mistakes or what you could have or couldn't have done. When you start going out there and getting #'s you're going to get A LOT of flakes. Believe me, it gets INCREDIBLY frustrating. One time my friend and I got 10 #'s at a mall and they were all flakes.

Either way good job on the approach man. Believe me when I tell you it always feel better to go for it then to let it slip away.


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When getting a girl's # always make sure she has your number as well.