I'm looking for ideas of how to introduce girls to the idea of having anal sex. What approaches have worked for you? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks,
Ciornia

Trust!

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just slip it in and hold on

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Thanks for your replies. They were both helpful in their own ways. And if you or others have stories about specific ways you've approached this topic -- things you've said or done that have either worked or not worked -- I'd love to hear those too.

Peace,
Ciornia

the girls ive talked to about it have been scared, they dont want to do it with a guy that will ram it up there and pound her hard like no tomorrow, they were more willing with the slow sensual guy, suprisingly more women than you think are willing to try but it takes TRUST! if you have no trust dont bother.

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Thanks, Jish. I appreciate the follow-up. And you present some really good insights.

very true. comfort is the #1 thing I have to say I almost did it with my ex because I would jokingly at first say I was gonna fuck her in the ass but then over time I actually got more serious and asked If she was willing. is she the adventorous type and sexually open to try things ? I've heard women get intense orgasms if you stick a dildo in they're pussy while your fucking them in the ass. I haven't had the pleasure of trying this, maybe you can present this idea to her

This is definitely something I'd like ideas with also. My girlfriend seems pretty well made up in her mind that she's not a girl who has anal sex. One thing that I think is going on is that is not just a trust issue, but a comfort issue. My girlfriend has let me finger her ass, usually after a few drinks, and seems to really get off on it. But the idea of letting me penetrate her is something that I still haven't managed to do except twice. She said that both times were only mildly uncomfortable, but more than anything, it seems to be an issue of being at ease of something that's "taboo" to her. I think that trust is an enormous part for the girl--trusting that you're not going to be rough and hurt her, but I think that the girl needs to be comfortable with the idea of anal sex in of itself. How that's achieved if they aren't is something that still eludes me.

LMAO really hoping thats a joke LMAO....ive found little playing with a womens arse during normal sex playing with her ring etc, she gets used to it feeling good and is then more willing to try when u ask

agreed, work up to it. demonstrate that it can feel good and that you understand it's a sensitive spot and are willing to move slowly.

i've been told by women that women actually discuss this topic A LOT. and several women actually like it (but even those women will tell men no at first)

one you get passed the "taboo" resistance, the "taboo" part of it can actually be kind of hot.

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I start fingering while I fuck her. Maybe next time go a bit further and then just go for it. She can tell you that it feels bad if it does. You cannot force her to do it. However, you can make her want it...

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Yeah, the times in the past when I've had anal sex, there was always a lot of trust built up with the women, and I proceeded slowly towards anal. My situation right now is that I'm seeing -- and sleeping with -- a woman who is definitely open to some pushing of her sexual boundaries but seems stuck on two ideas related to anal sex: 1.) that it's unclean, since she uses her ass to shit, and 2.) that it's unfair that she should have to put something up her ass and I shouldn't. But since I first raised the issue, about a week and a half ago, she's brought up the subject herself a couple of times, and in ways that suggest to me that she's not only curious to try anal but slowly overcoming her resistance. I've been trying to make her comfortable with the idea without building it up too much, because making it sound like a big deal might result in her being less open to giving it a shot. And I've been gradually fingering her ass more during sex (and she seems to really like it).

Thanks again for all your thoughts, and I'll keep you posted, if you're curious to hear how this turns out.

so the few times she let me try couldnt get my penis to penetrate, what are some tips and yes i tried lube

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you ever noticed how when a girl is really really turned on and very wet her vagina seems to open up and be able to take more than usual, in the heat of the moment when she is gasping and it is expanding and contracting, she wants to feel something nice and big in there , well the ass works the same.....hope you understand what im saying, its hard to explain

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Thought you might like a girls perspective. I had anal with my ex boyfriend and it happened one night when we were both very drunk with no lube and I was crying because it hurt me so bad. I couldnt sit down for a week! And vowed to never ever do it again.

Then I met my current boyfriend who approached it slowly and calmly, making sure I was enjoying the feeling of his finger up my ass while kissing me and fucking me. He made me feel extremely comfortable and if I ever told him to stop, he would immediately.One night he penetrated and it was amazing. He completeyl turned around my point of view and made me want it.

So yeah I guess it's all about the comfort - like all the guys have been saying!