So after a horrible attempt at a freeze out (full story here: should-i-be-moving-on-vt66513.html ) I ended up texting this girl last night.

We chatted for a while over text and facebook messenging until I actually got home and we started using the chat application.

Somehow we ended up talking about us, and she told me basically that she really enjoys spending time with me, has a lot of fun and really enjoys my company... but feels confused/bad that she's not attracted to me for some reason.

After saying that, though, she told me about another relationship where she was with a guy for 6 months before she actually felt attracted to him. She also made it fairly clear (I think, memory is foggy) that she still intends to pursue things with me... so in a way I guess I'm in ok shape. I also think part of it is that we haven't been able to spend much time together since she's so busy...

But how would you deal with this situation?

[quote="Onoma"
After saying that, though, she told me about another relationship where she was with a guy for 6 months before she actually felt attracted to him. [/quote]

IOI. I would keep things light and playful with this one, I dont know exactly where you stand though. The real problem seems to be your mostly in the friendzone, so break out!

btw, don't get wrapped up with this one. It sounds like your about to get one-itis. And take it from the classic "hopeless/romantic", it can be a bitch. Have options and don't stay too involved with one girl for too long. Good luck

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"Cat-string theory"?

Then again, she might honestly want to take things slow due to past issues. I'm not pro, so it's difficult to say.

For some reason, nearly every time I post a question I get accused of one-itis...


Seems like a weird way to be in the friend zone though, with her telling me she's confused about why and hoping it changes with time.

Of course, maybe she's just saying that!

If a girl is not attracted it's bull. Attraction comes from personality and looks. Sure looks first catch the eye, but once you open your mouth that's when it matters.

Draw her in with your personality, use push and pull, throw in a few negs, keep it fresh.