One of my mates met this girl at high school. She has been totally obsessed with him since she was 14. Now she is 20 and my mate is 24. She is still completely 100% obsessed with him.

They have never dated. She is a smoking hotty. Everytime she comes out of a relationship she will try everything to get my mate to date her. My mate just uses her for sex and says that he doesn't want a relationship.

I just don't understand, she is so hot she could get any guy she wants. But she still feels so strongly for my mate after so many years.

Wtf, I don't understand attraction.

people want what they cant have

I remeber hearing Adam Lyons explain attraction, he explained it in a story, yes....its story time

Imagine your dream car, lets say you save up to buy it, you take on an extra job, and spend 20 years saving up that extra money, imagine all the stuff you had to do, cut down on so many luxuries you wanted, all thoses exra hours of work, but after all this you finaly have the money and can buy the car.

Now, on the same day you won the exact same car in a raffle, now you cant keep both cars, which one are you more likley to sell?....thats right the one you spent all the time saving up for....why?

To any1 else the two cars are the same, if they had to choose one it would just be a 50/50 choice, but for you, you see all the effort you put into getting the car, you could even say your more ATTRACTED to the car you work for.

Attraction is the investment of time and effort, the more time and effort you spend on something/someone, the more attracted you are to it/them, because you had to wok for it it has more value to you.

You say this girl has been investing in your mate since she was 14, she is now 20, dude thats 6 years, imagine you had been investing in somthing for 6 years! If i had been saving for a car for 6 years id treat it like fucking gold.