Hey guys,
So Ive been happily single for 4 awhile and been seeing a girl and talking to a bunch of others, kissing and so on.
The girl I was seeing asked me to be her boyfriend but I just didnt want to at the time, we lost our virginity to each other about 8 years ago and stayed friends. She is out of my league and really sweet but shes not what I want.
So out of the girls Ive been talking to, I really really like one of my best friends sister.
Im just confused whether she likes me back or how I can get her. I only met her a few months ago and got her number 2 weeks ago or something. We would normally just chat, have a laugh with her brother, have a smoke. And normally I can feel a vibe or know how to get the girl, but either she doesnt like me and is being really polite, or she does and Im confused lol.
So Ill section the times we've spent...
1:
So when I got her number, I txted her wanna have a smoke? She txt back saying, what time you wanna come over. So I saw her that night, for about an hour, 2 of her friends were there and it was quite normal. She was telling me about her studies and so and so, everyone was talking.
2:
Id see her a couple of times between when I went to see her brother.
Again, I arranged to pick some stuff up (some smokes) and this time she was alone. We had a smoke and chatted for about 45mins. No flirting, just joking and normal conversation and she was gonna leave so I walked her to her friends house which is my direction anyway. When we said goodbye, she said let me know anytime you want to get some stuff or anything and winked at me and smiled (but it wasnt flirty in that way, but kind of gave me the feeling, ok thats not just normal)
3:
2 days later, I said wanna hang out? and she said what time you free. This was the first time we actually arranged to hang out without me picking stuff up or anything.
So we chatted and smoked and then some of her family came over, watched tv, but she would face me and talk instead. Her family stayed for ages and ruined her plans for later, so was some drama lol, but after everyone left, we chatted for a bit more, I could see she was tired and I was too. So I left, and she was like thanks for coming and all smiles.
4:
the next day I met up with her brother and we arranged to play some pool. I didnt expect to see her, but she came over with her niece and we played with her a bit and her mum was going to make a bbq. She was like you'd love my mums chicken and you gotta try some. But Id already arranged to go with her brother so I said maybe another time. We had a smoke together and talked and said our byes.
btw she never ever lets me buy anything or use any of my smokes, she really generous with her stuff.
5:
So yesterday. I thought, ok, I like this girl and I havent even touched her or flirted with her. Iv made a few jokes and made fun of her but you know.
I saw her for about 1 minute and her brother wanted to sleep so he kicked me out lol.
I txt her saying after i left, wanna have a smoke. She txt back saying, im ok thanks. I said, i forgot to ask, see u later. she said thats ok.
I txted her back saying, what u up to on monday? she said, shes going to town with her mum and what am i up to. i said, going gym, then be around ur area, wanna get some food i didnt really make it clear.
she didnt text back
its the first time she didnt text back, she always normally very polite and even txts back ok, when i say im gonna be there in 10 mins.
So it really confused me, I thought shed txt back or reply, she was asking what im up to.
So I txt back today saying, ill take that as a no lol, take care.
she txt back straight away saying. hi, ya i did txt back, i got to go town with my mum on monday.
me: cool, i txt back saying if u want to do something afterwards. having a good day?
her: i cant, i got a few things to do 2m. yeah. wheather is nice today. u ok
me: im ok, chilling, catching up with a few things. wot u up 2?
her: cooking dinner yum
and basically it didnt get anywhere else. just talking about her brother and a song she played when we were in her friends car. she said she'll find out what the song is later and let me know.
i txt her back saying thanks.
Im confused. Normally I can tell if someone is interested.
I told her brother, (which he doesnt mind) i think your sister is just being polite. but he says i think she might like u....
So do I leave it? I wont txt her again unless she txts me what song it is. her replies are always short compared to mine, but sometimes so fast. Shall I ask her out again on wednesday or something?
I wanted to make monday a bit more serious, go get some food just the 2 of us, maybe take her to the cinema or get a dvd. have a smoke in the park.
I havent flirted with her and even touched her hand or made any contact so I wanted to do these things to make things a bit clearer.
Help guys, what do you think? How can I get her? Or what moves should I make?
She is so much nicer than my ex and we get along well. I want her, but I think shes been hurt before. Shes use to rudeboys and guys like that. Im a tough guy, I can handle myself, Im an amateur cage fighter looking to go pro soon, but at the same time, Im not a bad guy.
O and I think she knows I like her.
Supposedly one of her friends told her brother, (one of my best friends) whos your friend that likes your sister?
Supposedly she said it lol....
I dont know what most the PUA shortcut words mean either like negs, C&F, push-pull, ESP.
I know push and pull.
I dont really want to play games with this girl, but testing the waters and using whatever I will do
Thanks guys
Right now my plan is to leave it for awhile as she said she'll txt me back a song I wanted to know the name of. Ill leave it till tuesday afternoon and text her asking whats shes up to on wednesday. And make it kinda into a date.
CHAT