DAVID SHADE

''Too many men seek power from outside themselves. They will
part with great amounts of money in order to try to buy some magic
bullet. There is no such thing as a magic bullet. Furthermore, they
are not assuming responsibility for their own outcome.

Too many men are busy running around trying to get as many
women to sleep with them as possible, thinking that it will prove
something to themselves. But it won’t, and such men end up still
having the same underlying problems. They need to fix their
problems before they involve real people.

Too many men entirely base their self worth on how many women
say yes. That puts all the power in the women. There is nothing
personally powerful about that.

Too many men see women as an obstacle to get around to get to the
sex. Such men are just masturbating inside an object.

So many men place power in a woman based solely on the
woman’s looks. He does not even consider who she is as a person.

What you are seeking so relentlessly is nothing that comes from
outside of you, it's something you already have.

There is only you. You have only you to rely on. You have only
you that you can count on. And what better to work on than yourself?

But you have to believe that you deserve it.

People don’t necessarily get what they want. People don’t
necessarily get what they need. Instead, people get what they
honestly and truly believe that they deserve. In other words, people
get what they expect to get.

The key to having what you want is not getting what you want, but
being the person for whom getting what you want is a mere byproduct
of the reality you create simply by the way you live life.

It builds a foundation of belief that is very real and a relationship
with reality that is very empowering.

Get Real. Get in touch with reality. Respect reality.

Separate and differentiate a woman from her looks. All women are
human beings. They just have female body parts. Appreciate the
beauty of a woman, but don’t give her undue credit just for her looks.
Base your opinion on who she is as a person.

You like being with a woman, but you don’t need her.

Do not base your self worth upon how many women agree to sleep
with you. Base your self worth on what you think of yourself.

Get self validated. Believe in yourself, based entirely on what you
think of yourself, not on what others think of you.

Self esteem is what you think of yourself. Ego is what you think
other people think of you. To base your self image on what others
think of you is to lack self esteem.

Be A Man. Stand up tall. Tell the truth. Live a life of integrity.
Assume responsibility for your own thoughts and actions.

And always, respect. Command respect. Demand respect. Treat
others with respect. Associate only with those who treat you with
respect. Be assertive when need be. It all begins with self respect.
Self respect above everything else.

What does it mean to command respect? It means that other people
do not dare violate you. Other people hold you in esteem. Other
people take what you say seriously. But nobody is going to have
respect for you unless you respect yourself.

What does it mean to have self respect? It means that you do not
do anything that would violate your own morals and beliefs, meaning
you never compromise yourself. It means that you never lie to
yourself, you are never in self denial, you are always brutally honest
with yourself. It means you have respect for others; only a person
who holds themselves in esteem is capable of holding another in
esteem.

When all of the above is true for you, you have everything it takes,
and all that it takes, to obtain and enjoy the aspects of life that are so
important to you.