Hi,
I'm a newbie and I got the following question.
Some time ago I met a girl in a club. I offered her a drink (error, I know), but she
soon said yes (= IOI). We talked perhaps 20 mins and, as a perfect AFC, I exaggerated with compliments, without looking for physical contact and further IOIs.
So I blew it: she saw her friends go away and she wanted to go as well, giving me only her email.

Since then, I wrote her a couple of times and she always answered veeeery quickly, leaving no space for further talking. Last time I proposed her to meet for a coffee and got no answer. I think she is somebody looking for fun, and misunderstood me as the nice guy.

I'd be glad to have suggestions for email re-openers able to make her curious again.

Many thanks!

Don't ask her how she is or if she wants to meet some time.

DHV - Hi, how are ya? (your not really fussed but it starts a message). I've had a great week, just booked my third flying lesson blah blah blah etc etc etc...
(tell her how exciting you are and how great your life is. ie. your a fun guy to hang with)

Have a party or a night out already planned with mates.

- Oh, i'm off out this weekend to the X Club in Manchester if you fancy joining us. Bring some friends if you wish.

That's what i'd try. Let me know how it goes. Good luck.

TT

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Tony T

Dude her accepting a drink from a chump (you) is not an indicator of interest. Honestly, what are you talking about? This is some random chick at a club. FIND ANOTHER GIRL! Not that difficult of a concept is it? You shouldn't even be asking this question, you should be reading more material and practicing more in the field.

dude from your aproach alone this girl is going to think your a looser and treat you as another pawn shes met at a bar, your time would be better spent opening more sets...the right way, if you want to keep this girl as a friend fair enough but your wasting your time trying raise you value in her eyes, she already sees you as low value so to raise your value and generate attraction would not be worth the effort.

Well, were it not that before approaching her I had been talking with another girl that then turned out to be her friend, and that she had been looking at me, I would agree that a yes to a drink is nothing -- actually it's a drink for free for her.

The problem is that I (physically) like this girl. But I agree that the best strategy is to defocus -- and maybe write her again later on in an innocuous way, as TT suggests.

never buy a girl a drink! at least not until she's earned it,
when you did this, she filed you under the same catagory as all the other guys she's accepted a drink from

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you probably already got that nice image in her and her not e-mailing you back is saying it. the best thing you can do a freeze out

or

A girl accepting a drink IS NOT an IOI unless your well hooked!

DO NOT freeze her out unless your not bothered (then just forget PU) otherwise she will just forget you.
At a minimum send her random interesting, funny texts like if you got lost hiking i would stay with the search party till it rained. Do not just double barrell her with these, if she does not reply you need another approach or she will just assume you have her on your 'funny tx message mailing list'.

Don't freeze her out man, you can only freeze out a girl that you already have intereseted or she will just forget about you!

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Tony T

she has that "oh yeah hes a nice guy" mentality which is the equivalent of you telling a girl shes fat.


yeah forget about your nice guy image. you can always reopen now that you have her e-mail

just wanted to say this is exactly the input I needed.

Hope it will work, though one necessarily needs patience. Thanks TT

wow guys go easy on him.
he has three posts

its only pu, not religion

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