I'm still in high school, but I haven't even had a girlfriend. Not because of my looks or my personality but because of my confidence and shyness. Should I just wait it out then pick up the game or actually try to get laid. I hear sometimes that trying to lose your virginity just makes the odds lower and you should just let it happen. So should I wait it out or try to lose it, to a girl I am attracted to of course.

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Go for it bud! What you're doing (to quote the 40 Year Old Virgin) is putting the pussy on a pedestal. Go out and get laid! After this you'll realize that sex isn't this grandiose super special thing. It's just something enjoyable that happens. The sooner you get that first lay the sooner you'll realize this and be able to progress much further towards being a PUA. And who says that trying lowers your odds? You have to try to succeed in anything, that's some terrible advice you were told my friend.

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I would build up my game a bit and loose it to a hottie...dont settle if you dont have to.

It became much easier to approach and talk to girls after I got laid for the first time. Mental barrier = gone.

"...should I wait" The time is now!!!

"Trying to lose your virginity makes the odds lower..." Man, where are you getting this info from? They haven't tried hard enough!

Work on your social skills if you're shy and lack confidence... you don't want to have those traits the first time you get laid!

Try talking to the girls you find attractive, it's never too late because you'll never (EVER) get the "perfect chance" to talk to the ones you like. EVER. Remember that and just go for it. You'll improve fast.

Dude, we're all trying to get laid. Do what you can, and after you lose your virginity, you'll feel much more confident, and everything will seem a little easier. That doesn't mean that you can't use PUA skills to get that girl. It's not like the laws of attraction don't apply in high school. Just use what you know, and do your best. Are we to assume that there's a particular girl you think you could have sex with? Besides, when people see you with that girl, and see that she finds you attractive, it will make other girls find you more attractive too.

I lost mine at a party to a hot chick and i wasn't drunk. It was OK... I did it because i wanted to prove that i could lose it, probably a lot of social pressure. After I lost it I wasn't interested in sex for a couple of months.

One thing you might want to know is, in my experience, the first time isn't that great. I had HUGE expectations, as most of us do, and i thought it was going to be a mind blowing experience!!!!!!! but it was pretty ordinary.

Don't be discouraged though! after a while you get good at it and it becomes mind blowing. That's my experience anyway. If you can lose it to a steady girlfriend you'll learn faster. If you want confidence read books about sex you can find e-books everywhere, there is a whole world as big as the seduction world. oh! and if the girl your with is a virgin too bring HEAPS of lube, it's probably common sense but i didn't think of it lol

If you want my opinion? don't rush it let it happen but ultimately it's up to you. hope that helps

I don't think I want to lose it to a virgin, unless I truly like her. I hear its all bloody and you have to go slow if you don't want to hurt her because that thing in her has to be broken the first time. And a lot of girls at my school are doing the purity or virgin until married thing. Thank you all for answering this question, know I know which way I want to go.

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