Hey guys this is my story. I'm very new to PUA. I'm 23 and still a virgin (I did have a gf several years ago but I decided against sex because I was stupid). In all honesty I'm a very good looking guy and I get HB7+ IOIs on a fairly regular basis -- ie winking, compliments, smirks etc. I'm just an AFC idiot and have no idea what to do or how to approach. I grew up in a very conservative family and no one ever taught me how to talk to or attract girls. For the past year I've been trying very hard to change my habits and become a more sociable and fun person to be around. I used to have REALLY bad AA, but I can 100% see a MAJOR improvement from a year ago.
One of my classes this semester at college requires me to do 20 hours of community service. Today was my first day and I went in feeling very confident and with a mentality that I want to talk to all women there and be social, fun, and just the ideal "me".
I met this HB7.5 that's also doing the same volunteer work for one of my classes (it's an online class so we never met before) and all went well. I opened (just with a "hi, are you here to volunteer, too?" and in the first little chat with her I found out she was engaged and had a 3 year old daughter. There was no attraction at all (although she was kind of cute, but I wasn't really into her), I just wanted to be social and fun. She constantly smiled at me and sometimes would follow me around do work on whatever I was working on. I felt like a badass lol. That's never happened before in my life.
Next, we had to do this group thing (mundane volunteer work), and I decided to try to surround myself with women. I was working at a table with the chick in my class, and two other fairly cute (underage) high-school girls. Again, no particular attraction to any of them, but I felt really amazing being able to talk/banter/make them laugh. That's the first time I was at the center of a table with relatively attractive women.
Now, I have a couple of questions for you pros out there
1) I was doing my best to be alpha. However, there were all these (relatively buff) alpha-"looking" guys lifting boxers or carrying shit around. I decided to hang with the ladies doing the more easy work. Would I be perceived as a "pussy" or an alpha? 99% of the time I feel more comfortable with guys and this was my first time doing something like this. Did I do the right/wrong thing?
2) There were plenty of times that the conversation just died out at our table for 30seconds - 1min. In my head I'd be like "come on say something interesting say something interesting" but just came up blank. How do I fix this?
3) There were many times when I'd make retarded jokes and laugh at my own dumb joke (clearly a DLV) how do I fix this?
Anyway, thanks a lot for any advice/criticism/etc!
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