SO,where do i start from?
There are some girls in school that keep looking at me,in my class for example,there are some,today for example i realized she looking at me at least 3 or 4 times,but she looks away,and smile or laugh after a while i notice this.

Detail:Also in my class theres a chick who "would wanna know me",but when her friend came up to me,i just said i wasnt on the mood.That was some months ago.

SO,the thing is,the are others girls that look at me(not TONS,but some),from other grades for example,a girl came at me and basicaly asked if i "would know her friend" again i said no,and this also happened on street,and malls :cry: .

This is driving me down and crazy.
Am I weird as HELL?
Extremly ugly?
Do they actually like me?
Is there something on my teeth?
Are they part of a big conspiracy,that wants to steal my gens?

Im asking this here because i have -1 SELF STEEM,and i dont even have a clue of what is happening.
I REALLY need a hand,could you guys help me?
Sorry for the poor english,any questions just ask.

i would disagree with you on the part were you say you have self esteem. I hate to break this to you, but when a girl offers you her friend you can say yes. You are probably scared to say yes because you have low self esteem, and you are afraid that after the girl gets to know you she won't want to see you anymore. Then you will feel like shit.

Well your going to feel like shit no matter what you do. You will feel like shit if you say no, yes, maybe, i don't know, etc. It doesn't matter what you do or say you will still feel like shit. You will still have that hole in your heart that says you are not a complete person.

The only way to overcome this hole in your heart is to start saying yes. Say yes to everything and don't be scared. If you say NO it is because you are scared. Scared you won't be able to finish, succeed, or be good at something. So then you rationizale in your mind. You say: I would have said yes... IF i felt like it. or IF i wanted to. The reason you don't want to is because your scared. NEW FLASH! If you were a positive person with high self esteem you would say yes. I always say yes. Unless they are desperate. Then I keep them away until they are alone and no one is looking, then I fuck them. But whatever.

You don't always have to say yes, but if you continue to say no, then you won't grow as a person, and you will remain confused. Look inside your little heart and stomach. Close your eyes the next time someone asks you a question like that. And feel what you feel inside your body. You might feel a nervous feeling in your belly. Or you might not feel anything at all. But say YES, then see if your feelings change. Because if your not nervous then you are never out of your comfort zone. And if you never leave your comfort zone you are never going to learn. So Say yes. and face the fear head on like a wild man hunting in the wilderness. Face your challenger and overcome your fear. Be a real man. Be the man girls will dream of, be a man of courage and strength. Be a man of great power. Face your fears, you are able to do it!

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Thanks for that magnum,REALLY helped,i also have to take the newbie test,i DO want to step up and grow.

but do you any idea what is the deal with the girl that keeps looking at me and smiling/laughing?, im not sure what.

Listen bro I know this is hard for you to accept, but she probably thinks your cute.

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Man, I don't be to be a hater, but it's probably because you've got red skin and kind of look like a thumb...

I kid.

Unless she's a real bitch or there is something weird about you, it probably means she's interested. Don't let it eat you up, go approach her and see how it goes.

~Deebo

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You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

The laughs and the looks are strong IOIs. Whenever you see a girl look at you twice in a short period of time, just ask yourself, "why did she need to look at me again?". There is simply no reason other than she liked what she saw.

David D made a good point in one of his programs - "it's always on".... meaning you should assume every girl you meet is interested in you. This does 2 things - 1) thinking this way prevents you from assuming girls are not into you when they ARE, and 2) having this belief system, if you really believe in it, will cause you to be confident and come across as though you are something girls would be lucky to have.

Cocky people generally get more girls because they just believe in their mind that they are valuable. And when you believe something, you project it onto others.

Understood,thank you all,but i can tell another story?
Some time ago bunch of "aproached"(or wtf that was supposed to be),we had a small chat,one said i was "cute as always",yeah right :D ,i totally froze up,then they left.

some time after that,a friend of the girls,every time she passed by me she asked me to say something,according to her she liked my voice.
i had no idea what to say when she did that,i just said Hi or something like that,she stopped after a while,i was thinking they were trolling me,or anything similar ,and i still thinking this.

sometime later,i found out one girl of their class was into me,so i scored her,it took sometime,i wasnt believing she was into me .

so thats it,thats all happened to me in that school.

i think i have serious self steem problems,since im also sick,i think that contributes for the low self steem.

Sorry taking your time,again thanks.

You'll have to get to the root of why you have low self-esteem... sometimes an insecurity, sometimes a past event that has made you think less of yourself. It seems to me that it is one of these 2 things having to do with your looks.

I used to think I was an ugly guy based on my experiences in 5th - 7th grade... they were dramatic experiences for me. It took me many years and lots and lots of IOIs before I started to get over this. The best thing to help with this is to learn how to recognize IOIs, what the typical examples of them are, and believe in it.

Focus on the fact that these girls keep coming up to you even though you don't do a damn thing. That means they think you are hot. Not cute, hot. It's funny that they ask you to say something to hear your voice... its not your voice they want to hear... its that they want to bond with you. They probably notice that you are shy and want you to open up so they can be nice and friendly to you.

You need to recognize even more subtle indicators... ones that girls dont even realize they are emitting... because if you don't you will be hard pressed to find a date in the future..... eventually, when you get older you'll find girls don't do that stuff anymore.

Determining the problem is half the battle.

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[quote="donkrx"]You'll have to get to the root of why you have low self-esteem... sometimes an insecurity, sometimes a past event that has made you think less of yourself. It seems to me that it is one of these 2 things having to do with your looks.

I used to think I was an ugly guy based on my experiences in 5th - 7th grade... they were dramatic experiences for me. It took me many years and lots and lots of IOIs before I started to get over this. The best thing to help with this is to learn how to recognize IOIs, what the typical examples of them are, and believe in it.

Focus on the fact that these girls keep coming up to you even though you don't do a damn thing. That means they think you are hot. Not cute, hot. It's funny that they ask you to say something to hear your voice... its not your voice they want to hear... its that they want to bond with you. They probably notice that you are shy and want you to open up so they can be nice and friendly to you.

You need to recognize even more subtle indicators... ones that girls dont even realize they are emitting... because if you don't you will be hard pressed to find a date in the future..... eventually, when you get older you'll find girls don't do that stuff anymore.[/quote]

Maybe the same thing is happening to me man,actually we are pretty similar,my 5th - 7th grade were like shit,and probably this is reflecting on my life.
It wouldnt be bad if they were actually liking me,definitely would boost my self steem.

By the way,this forum is great,great users.